“Mother-in-law came to our wedding in a white dress. I had the impression that she wanted to take my place”

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There are many stereotypes around the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The mother-in-law is often perceived as a hag who interferes in everything, and the daughter-in-law is a conceited girl who wants to take her son’s mother … that he was gaining a daughter, not losing a son. Unfortunately, I miscalculated, because despite my sincere intentions, I did not manage to win the sympathy of my husband’s mother.

My relationship with my mother-in-law has never been very close. Already at our first meeting, she made me understand that she didn’t like me very much. I didn’t really care about it, because it wasn’t my life with her, after all. I treated her with respect until our wedding day, which I wanted to cancel because of what she did. It seemed to me that such stories only happen in movies. Unfortunately, I have experienced one myself. Well, my mother-in-law during our wedding decided to make me one of the biggest annoyances. A dozen or so minutes before the ceremony, she appeared in our room dressed in a long white lace dress that resembled a wedding dress! I can’t describe what I felt then … I was mixed with rage and sadness. It felt like he wanted to take my place. I wanted to ask her out, or cancel the wedding altogether. Fortunately, my (then future) husband managed to reassure me a bit, saying that no one would disturb us that day and no one looks more beautiful than me. I decided to get married, but I will never forget my mother-in-law.

To my surprise, during the wedding, none of the guests commented on the appearance of my mother-in-law. I didn’t say a word to her, but my husband talked to her and told her to change into something else or leave the wedding immediately. I’m glad that he took my side, because it probably made my mother-in-law to think … After some time she apologized to me, explaining that she was completely unaware that she was doing something wrong and that she might hurt me with it … however, I do not believe and think that our relations have no chance for any improvement.

G.

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