“The holidays haven’t started and I’m already fed up with them. A visit to my mother-in-law is always a nativity scene”

Feeling blue during the holidays is a common occurrence. It often results from loneliness after the loss of a loved one or quarrels with loved ones. For many people, this is the most stressful time of the year and feels extremely painful. There are many reasons, and one of them was given by our reader, who in a sincere letter to the editors of nazwa.gazeta.pl described how much she dislikes holidays. It’s all because of her relationship with her mother-in-law. If she could, she probably wouldn’t go to her husband’s family home at all, but it’s not that simple.

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“It’s almost time for the holidays, another time of the year when I feel like sinking into the ground. Well, maybe I can sleep through it all. I don’t like this artificial atmosphere, which, although it affects everyone, is very unbearable. The holidays haven’t started and I I’m already fed up with them. A visit to my mother-in-law is always a nightmare. A beautifully set table, delicious food and people who are there out of necessity and even though they simply don’t like each other, they pretend to accept each other. You have to put on a good face to play a bad game and say unheard of things, just for my husband’s mother to stop thinking, at least for a moment, about how to hurt her hated daughter-in-law. Unfortunately, this is the reality. We’ve been married for over ten years, and she hasn’t bothered me from the beginning. And neither have I, but they irritate me her constant comments and questions that clearly suggest that I am a bad mother and wife.

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I have the support of my husband, but when alcohol is on the table during the holidays and uncomfortable topics begin, I want to get up and leave the house. I wonder if it’s like this in other homes too. I’ve had enough of this and if this year my mother-in-law asks me an uncomfortable question, I will answer her in a way that will keep her silent forever. No more allowing yourself to be humiliated! I’m too old and no one will treat me like shit.” Kasia.