Much has been written about the benefits of sleeping in separate beds despite being in a relationship. These solutions have even become trends on TikTok and have their own names, such as “Scandinavian sleeping” – in which couples sleep in one bed, but each has a separate set of bedding. You can find more information on this topic in Therefore, no one should be surprised by the fact that the phrase “sleep divorce” is now being used more and more often, both in the media and in books.
Most often, but not only couples who have been married for a long time decide on this type of “separation”. After many sleepless nights in a room that is too cold or too warm, fighting for the duvet, putting earplugs in your ears so as not to hear your significant other’s snoring, for many people this method turned out to be a lifesaving solution.
“Bed divorce” improves sleep quality and increases desire? That’s what experts say
As reported in 2023, in France one in ten couples decides to have a “bed divorce”, i.e. sleeping in separate beds – according to research conducted in this country. The British are also increasingly inclined to separate beds – over the last decade, the number of couples who sleep separately has doubled. According to research reported in The Telegraph in June 2021, there was a jump from 7 to as much as 15 percent.
The decision to sleep in separate beds does not have to be permanent. Some couples stick to the “bed divorce” rules only during the working week. This is due to, for example, different starting times of work and discrepancies in the functioning of biological clocks. In this way, we avoid unnecessary awakening of the partner, who, for example, may sleep longer and need this type of regeneration.
In addition, a number of other factors may influence the “bed divorce”: insomnia, snoring, different preferences for the temperature in the room where we fall asleep, different preferences for bedding and its quality, texture, as well as habits immediately before going to sleep, e.g. likes to scroll through social media, while the other person prefers to calm down and cut off the so-called blue light.
“Bed Divorce”. Expert: “Frees you from unnecessary pressure”
“Wysokie Obcasy Extra” also quoted Dr. Philippe Beaulieu, a French doctor who treats ailments related to sleep disorders. The specialist emphasized that, for example, “intense snoring makes it difficult for the other person to fall asleep again, especially when he or she is woken up in the middle of the night, when the light sleep phase has already begun.”
Insomnia is also a problem and is becoming a lifestyle disease. People with a “heightened level of vigilance” are particularly vulnerable to it. – Even the slightest movement can wake them up from sleep. Most often, they are women, the expert explained.
The magazine also refers to the statement of sexologist Aurore Malet-Karas, who noted that physical separation may even increase desire between partners. – We are no longer in the “I propose and you act” configuration. This situation frees you from unnecessary pressure. This applies especially to women, the expert said.
Doctor advises: “You should always sleep alone”
Dr. Karan Rajan, a surgeon and academic lecturer, also gives this type of advice on TikTok. The specialist even believes that we should always choose solitary sleep because it improves its quality. “You should always sleep alone,” he claims in the published video.
Dr. Rajan explains that our significant other’s snoring or fidgeting can make it difficult for us to enter the REM phase – the crucial, deepest phase of sleep. Poor sleep quality, in turn, has a destructive impact on our mental and physical health. The doctor emphasizes that people have different sleep cycles. Therefore, while one person wakes up well-rested in the morning, another may be chronically sleep-deprived. Another reason to decide on a “bed divorce” is body temperature.
One of the triggers needed to fall asleep is a drop in body temperature. Sharing a bed increases body temperature, so it takes longer to fall asleep
– explains Dr. Rajan.
There are over 2.5 thousand comments under the video. Of course, not everyone agrees with his theory, but the doctor himself admits that there are, of course, exceptions to the rule he describes. “I sleep a million times better with someone, I have horrible PTSD nightmares, and I feel safer with someone,” one person confesses.
My husband sleeps in a separate room. He snores and prefers the room to be warm. In turn, I love coldness and silence. We have been married for 25 years
I agree, but my other half says I’m mean to him because I want to get a good night’s sleep.
My grandparents slept separately and were married for life
I finally ‘moved’ into a separate room after 18 years of sharing it with a partner who snores. It’s the best thing I’ve ever done
I’ve definitely been sleeping better since the divorce
– we read in the remaining selected entries.
These stars prefer to sleep alone. “I must be untouched”
Celebrities also openly admit that, despite being in a relationship, they prefer to sleep in separate beds. Among foreign celebrities, the American actress Gwyneth Paltrow and our native artist, Doda, are known for their passion for this solution. In one of the episodes of her podcast on RMF MF, she revealed that sleep hygiene is extremely important to her.
– I prefer to sleep alone than with a partner. Nine hours of sleep is essential for me. It’s best if no one breathes in my ear or snores. I have to be untouched, preferably completely on a separate island called a bed, wrapped in a duvet, without any cuddles – said the singer.
Source: Gazeta
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