“We haven’t even got married yet and his mother is already talking about our divorce.”

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Many stereotypes, often very harmful, have arisen around the relationship between the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law. The mother-in-law is often shown as an incarnate evil that interferes with literally everything. The daughter-in-law, on the other hand, as a conceited girl who wants to take her son from her mother once and for all. Honestly, I was hoping that these were only stereotypes, and in real life it looks completely different. Oh how much I miscalculated …

My relationship with the future mother-in-law was quite cold from the beginning. Although during the first meeting she made me understand that she would not like to have such a woman as her daughter-in-law, with time our contact became a bit more neutral. However, just after the proposal, something hit her and she looks more like a mother-in-law from hell shown in the movies. And I already have this behavior of hers up to the nostrils. We haven’t even got married yet, and his mother is already talking about our divorce and pushing for intercourse. Until now, I have treated her with respect – after all, she is my beloved’s mother, but since M. asked me to marry me, what she is doing has been beyond my mind.

When we shared the news of our engagement with our families, literally everyone was happy, but she was not. My future mother-in-law was indignant that her son had not consulted her on this decision. Fortunately, he told her that he was an adult and was under no obligation to ask his mother about such things. That didn’t stop her from sticking her nose in her affairs, however. Soon she started calling us with information about who we absolutely need to invite to the wedding and reception. Neither of us said, however, that we wanted to organize a grand wedding for 300 people and invite our aunts and all the mothers we know, whom even M. himself does not know. There was also insistence on intercourse, inciting my fiancé that I “hunt” for his family fortune (although our families live on a similar level and each of us will inherit more or less the same from our parents) and divorce at each of our meetings.

My patience is slowly running out. M. tried to talk to her, but I have the impression that after each such conversation it gets even worse … We have recently made a decision that we do not organize weddings in Poland. We want to get married on an exotic beach in the company of our closest friends who will be witnesses. I would very much like our parents to accompany us. We talk to mine and they like our idea very much. However, I am afraid of the reaction of the future mother-in-law. I don’t want her to spoil this special day and the entire wedding trip …

Laura.

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