“Certainly no one wanted her”, that is, a solo prom. “It’s not worth the pressure”

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– I am not dating anybody now and although I have many friends, most of them are in a relationship, so the invitation was rejected by one of them – explains Patrycja, who, despite pressure from her friends, decided to go to the prom alone. – They tried to set me up with their brothers or friends of their partners, but for me taking a strange boy to a party just so that, in the opinion of my peers, it was not a sensible solution – he explains.

Prom without a partner. “It is not worth succumbing to pressure”

As she adds, many of her friends decided to invite previously unknown partners, or even … give up their prom. – I was not going to give up playing with my class, which I really like very much, just because I had no one to invite. Anyway, even though I didn’t have a partner, I wasn’t alone there! After all, there were my friends, their partners, friends from other classes … – Patrycja is enumerating, who is happy with the decision made. – I had a lot of fun and certainly better than my friends, who took unfamiliar boys to the prom and spent most of the evening in embarrassing silence, not to mention those who gave up the party completely due to the lack of a partner – he concludes.

She will not miss the polonaise she danced with her classmate. – His girlfriend was not allowed to take part in the rehearsals, so he suggested that we dance him together – he adds. As she emphasizes, contrary to her fears, it was also done without unpleasant taunts at her. – These appeared only before the event, but during the event no one paid attention to the fact that I am alone – he argues.

Marcelina, whose prom took place five years ago, has similar feelings. – In retrospect, I became even more convinced that I did the right thing – he says. – First of all, I had a great time fooling around with my classmates. And contrary to appearances, it is probably me, as the “unfortunate, poor, sad single girl” I spent the most time on the dance floor, dancing with both my classmates and simply in the company of my friends. I have never felt lonely for a moment, or like “the fifth wheel of a wagon”, as singles are often perceived – she says. – Secondly, years later, I still remember this event with a smile, the photos of which still decorate my walls. Unfortunately, my friends, who have already parted ways with their boyfriends at the time, cannot say the same, in quite unpleasant circumstances – he says.

“The boys think that if a girl is alone, it’s only because nobody wanted her and she’s definitely desperate.” Nothing could be more wrong, I just decided that in my life at that moment there was not enough valuable guy with whom I would like to spend this important evening for me – he adds.

– I know that young girls and boys are under pressure to take an accompanying person with him. This is supposed to show how liked we are, and even about our attractiveness! Friends are scaring us with some horrible scenarios that will surely happen if we go to this party alone. There is no point in listening to it and taking the joy of this event from yourself. The most important thing is not the accompanying person, but the friends from school with whom we will soon have to say goodbye – he argues.

Marysia, in turn, decided to invite her best friend to the prom. – A lot of my friends have boyfriends, so it was obvious to them that they were going to accompany them on this day. I didn’t want to take anyone by force just to feel “cool”. So I took my friend to the party – says Marysia, whose prom took place only a few days ago.

– It made me feel very comfortable and had a really good time. I know that this solution is not popular, because people in high school can be cruel, saying: “If you came alone to prom, nobody wanted you.” Fortunately, I had no stupid teasing. What’s more, some of my friends regretted that she came alone and did not do what I did – he argues.