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A few months ago, Piotr Jacoń shared his sincere confession in the media, announcing that he was the father of a transgender daughter. Although the journalist and him tried to support their daughter from the beginning, he admitted that her coming out, as well as the whole road to legal gender determination, were an emotionally difficult process for the whole family.
Piotr Jacoń on his transgender daughter: “she looked at us to make us do something, and we could do nothing”
Pursuant to the law in force in Poland, transgender persons are forced to sue their parents, accusing them of wrongly defined sex in childbirth. The journalist and author of the report “Everything about my child” and the book “My, trans” decided to raise this issue in an honest interview for the magazine “Viva”. – In the reportage, there are parents who deal with what we face, living in different places around the world. I envy those from Canada. There, nothing in this respect is a problem. Applying for new documents is a formality. Like getting a new passport. In Poland, everything is complicated. And yet such a person must go through a difficult path without it. After all, a transgender person does not immediately realize that he is a transgender person, he explains.
– It seemed to me that since I heard so many stories as a journalist, I was already prepared for what would happen. A lot also depended on Victoria’s attitude. Before the trial, she was in the stage of wishful optimism. She already wanted to take a photo for new documents. She thought that as soon as she left the courthouse, she would run to apply for a new ID card. We drove to the court from one apartment, one car. The four of us, because Victoria’s girlfriend was also with us. We entered the room, holding hands. (…) Wiktoria girl, i.e. the support person, was asked to leave. And we were physically weaned from our own child. Then it hit me how absurd and cruel everything that was happening. We entered the room as one, and for good reason the judge and de facto the state separated us – describes Jacoń, emphasizing once again how much of a psychological burden is the necessity to go through a similar process.
– This is extremely oppressive. And this is something the Polish state came up with. As if these people and their families didn’t have enough uphill. (…) The judge who heard our case was apparently okay. She addressed Victoria using female endings. But she made her stand in the middle and introduce herself by her old name. It was then that I saw my daughter shrink within herself and, in a barely audible voice, utter her previous male name. In this empty room, in front of strangers. And then he hears that he has to say louder, because it’s all recorded – he reports.
– It was torture. She watched us do something and we couldn’t do anything. Then it fell apart completely. I can’t get it. After all, the essence of the case with which we came is that the old name does not fit the person who appeared in court. Why is such pain necessary? In the name of what? Out of ignorance? Due to formalities? – wonders.
He also drew attention to the further difficulties faced by transgender people in our country, such as discrimination, as well as the need to cover the operation from own financial outlays. – In addition, systemically, a transgender person is treated as someone inferior. Not only does he have to pursue his rights in court, but in most cases he has to pay for hormone therapy or surgery out of his own pocket. And it is not – whim or fad. These are life-saving activities! – he summed up.
Source: Gazeta
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