Friends who “stick in high heels”. 7 events that we should not take from the second woman

It happens that during conversations with friends or loved ones we stick a lot of high heels. In this way we want to fall out with someone better. It also happens that we do it without bad intentions. Saying something, we do not wonder how our words will affect the other side. Sociologist Zuza Skrzyńska in her Instagram post mentioned examples of sentences that, regardless of our desire, are never supporting:

• This is nothing, I was worse!
• Once, women had harder and did not complain.
• I have more children and somehow I manage.
• All this is just a matter of willingness and organization.
• I couldn’t.
• You exaggerate, it’s not that bad at all.
• Embrace yourself instead of experiencing.

How can we replace hurting words?

It is worth noting whether we do not speak such sentences during conversations with friends and loved ones. Sociologist in her post also gave examples of statements that we can replace the word injuring the other side:

• I see you are tired. How can I help you?
• I brought you dinner.
• It can actually be sad. Do you want to hug now?
• I hear it is angry with you. I understand this, I was similar myself and it also angry me.
• I am with you. If you want, we can talk about it.
• Here you have tea – sit down and I bother.
• Maybe I will take the children for a walk and you will rest?
• It’s okay to cry.
• I can’t imagine how difficult it can be now. What can I do for you?

We hear such words from loved ones. They are by no means supporting

A discussion began under the entry. Some sociologist observers shared examples of sentences that they happened to hear. “It will be worse! You will still see how he will be 2-4 years old, he will go to school, he will be a teenager”, “others are worse”, “I had three at your age and I managed” – we can read in the comments section under the post of sociologo. What do you think about this problem? We encourage you to participate in our poll.