When we invite guests from further afield, or even countries, we often wonder about the issue of accommodation. Some leave it to the guests to organise (after all, a wedding is not a cheap party), others consider it appropriate to provide it for the invited guests. What was it like for my interviewees and how do the rules of etiquette relate to it?
“I can’t imagine paying for accommodation for all the wedding guests”
– We paid for the accommodation of our family guests – said Monika. – We had a wedding near Warsaw, and the family was from three different cities. If someone from outside the family wanted to stay overnight, we had a few rooms with a discount – so the guests paid themselves, but less. A few such people decided to stay and no one made a problem about it. It was their decision, they didn’t have to stay, because there was also a bus back to Warsaw, and all the friends were from there, so they could comfortably return home in the middle of the night if they wanted.
Generally, I think I am a supporter of the idea that family is family and it is appropriate to provide accommodation, but not necessarily for friends, especially if you invite a lot of people. You inform them about the wedding early enough that they have a chance to sort something out themselves and spread/plan the costs, including a gift/envelope and travel to the venue.
– added Monika. Ola also had a certain system, but it did not take into account the division by degree of kinship, but by where her guests came from.
– Our wedding was organized in my area. My husband’s family came over 200 km, so we paid for their accommodation. My loved ones could use the transport that we provided. I can’t imagine paying for accommodation for all the wedding guests, especially if they live relatively close to home.
Who should pay for the wedding guests’ lodging? The young couple has theirs, the etiquette expert has hers
Aleksandra PakuĊa is an etiquette expert known online and beyond. In one of her posts, she solved a popular dilemma for many young couples. According to etiquette, who should pay for the guests’ accommodation: themselves or the hosts? We get the answer at the very beginning of the recording.
– The bride and groom should pay for their wedding guests’ accommodation – she said, then explained: – It comes from Polish hospitality. If we invite someone to a party that will last all night or until late in the evening, we cannot expect guests who travel far away to get into their cars in the middle of the night and drive home after the party.
If we invite them to such a party, we should provide them with accommodation and also pay for it. Is it an additional cost and obligation? Yes. But hosting guests is not only a pleasure, but also a duty.
– the expert summed up. And what do you think about paying for accommodation for wedding guests? Who should be responsible for that? If you’d like, please vote in our poll below.
Source: Gazeta
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