How many ex-partners are too many? “I would start wondering what it was all about if it were 20”

For some, past relationships should remain a secret, others prefer to put their cards on the table right away. How many ex-partners raise a red flag? The opinions of Warsaw residents vary. – I think it all depends on the person. I don’t pay much attention to the past. What matters more is what kind of person he is currently. And what happens earlier in a person’s life determines who he or she is currently. And this is more important to me, said one of our interlocutors. Others were more specific.

We ask men how many ex-partners are too many

We asked women and men the same question. The prevailing belief among men was that more than five is a lot. “I don’t really know, but I think five is quite a lot, right?” . Was it due to high school stories or is someone just really light-hearted and likes new experiences? Five is already at our age,” we heard.

There were also interlocutors who preferred not to ask their partners such a question. “I’m not asking and I don’t really want to know.” “I’ll say this: I didn’t ask. Fortunately, my girlfriend hasn’t had anyone yet. I’m her first, she’s my first,” they said. And someone else added: “There is no such number. It would depend on your mentality and approach, but is there a number? I would start wondering what it was all about if it were 20-30… That’s quite a number for me. But a few are definitely not… Cool.”

We ask women how many exes are too many

For women, the perspective was different. “As long as he is healthy and doesn’t have any venereal diseases, it’s fine. We are from the medical field. You need to be examined, that’s the most important thing”, “I don’t have such a number that would be a definitive obstacle”, “I would rather look at how long these lasted relationships. Because if someone had five partners before me and lasted a month with each of them, it means there must be something wrong,” they said.