We have been married for 17 years and have never wanted to have children. I prefer to fulfill myself as an aunt

Even though my sisters’ children adore me, I never dreamed of motherhood. I love my nephews and nieces, I think children are a truly wonderful part of life. However, I never dreamed of motherhood myself. I remember that already in primary school, when my friends were talking about how many children they would like to have in the future, I openly said that I didn’t want to be a mother. This always aroused great surprise. But I think I subconsciously felt from an early age that it wasn’t for me.

We have been married for 17 years and we haven’t changed our minds

When I met my husband, I told him about my plans on the first date. I knew that issues like this needed to be clarified before commitment occurred. I was obviously very stressed. I was afraid that my declaration would scare away such a wonderful guy. To my surprise, however, it turned out that Marek also did not want to have children. We have been married for 17 years and we have not changed our approach to this issue. Sometimes I jokingly mention that if Marek changes his mind, he has my permission to have a child with another woman. However, he has not taken advantage of this “offer” yet.

We have been married for 17 years and never wanted a child. I prefer to be fulfilled as an aunt Illustrative photo/ Photo Shutterstock/dekazigzag

Let’s not judge others from our perspective

As I mentioned, I love the children in my family. However, I believe that I am not suitable to be a mother. After a long day with my nephews, I usually feel completely exhausted. Besides, I’m afraid that I wouldn’t be able to devote as much time to my own children as I should. Some might say it’s selfish. However, I think it’s more realism. I just know myself quite well now. I know what makes me happy and what doesn’t.

And what surprises many people, I am a really happy, fulfilled and satisfied person with my life. I don’t feel any lack either. Because how can you be happy without a child? I don’t think we should judge everyone from our perspective. In my opinion, people should finally understand that we are very different, we have different dreams and needs. Therefore, what brings happiness to you will not necessarily bring it to me.

I was also lucky that my two sisters became mothers. Thanks to this, I never felt any pressure from my parents. However, I know people who decided to have children only because it was their mother’s or father’s dream. I’m glad I didn’t have to make such a radical decision just to please others first.