“When I remember how much money we spent on the priest, there’s a knife in my pocket.”

Organizing a wedding can occupy engaged couples for many months or even years before the event. There are many issues to consider. Often, apart from making our own dreams come true, we also have to take into account the wishes of our parents and whether our guests will like the whole thing. And indeed, many weddings turn out really great both in the eyes of the bride and groom and their loved ones. When, after many years, we return to old recordings, photos and memories, we come to the conclusion that it was a really successful event. But not always.

“I was probably more stressed about the first dance than the wedding itself”

What would you change if you got married for the second time? I asked my interlocutors this question. I wanted to find out if they had any advice or tips on organizing this event. What loses importance over time and is no longer a priority? Do they regret anything?

For me, the situation was complicated because I was getting married during the pandemic. Originally we invited about 200 people. Calling all of them, including my uncles from my brother’s grandmother’s side, who had to be presented with the entire family tree to understand who was calling them, was a failure… But that was the parents’ wish. Well, I wouldn’t fulfill this wish today. Ultimately, we had to significantly reduce the number of guests and it was the best decision in the world

– Ola confessed.

Emila also has similar thoughts: – Today I would definitely approach everything more relaxed and worry less about what others will say. I had a very large wedding (typically Podlasie), I would probably reduce it a bit, although it would be difficult because my husband and I have large families with whom we keep in touch and a lot of friends. But I would definitely cross out a few people.

I would also choose an easier first dance, I still shudder when I remember those lifts. But then I dreamed of creating a “wow” effect (young and stupid) and that’s why I was probably more stressed about the first dance than about the wedding itself.

– she laughed.

– We decided that since we are having a small wedding, in order to save some money, we would give up the DJ/emcee – said Klaudia. – Not a little, actually, about 3,000 zlotys. We prepared a medley of songs and just played it. Sometimes the witness came up and changed something or played a specific song, e.g. for the first dance.

The idea was good, but unfortunately when drunk friends and then uncles got into the laptop, it stopped being fun.

– she added.

“When I remember how much money we spent on a priest, a knife opens in my pocket.”

– I would love to organize my wedding again. Be careful, it’s going to be controversial. I would change everything, starting with resigning from the church, said Monika. – I got married in a church more for family and tradition than for my own needs.

‘When I remember how much money we spent on a priest, it brings a knife to my pocket.’ Photo Illustrative. photo: shutterstock / Andrey Gorgots

When I remember these pseudo-marital lessons and how much money we spent on a priest, a knife in my pocket opens. Then hearing during the sermon about how he doesn’t see us at church instead of a pleasant love story. Finally, he added something about politics. What a disaster. Never again. Thank you.

– Now it’s just a civil wedding. Small number of invitees and no alcohol. After the supposedly well-behaved and well-behaved guests started tripping over their own feet and making idiots of themselves after a few moments, I decided never again. Besides, I would give up appetizers on the tables. When I saw how much food was wasted, my heart ached. Now I would opt for dinner served under my nose, a table with sweets and appetizers on the side. If someone wants it, they will come and take it, and not dig into the shared plate with a dirty fork – concluded Monika.