Going to my family home for Christmas, I was prepared for uncomfortable questions, but I didn’t expect that I would be attacked. I’m 35 years old and I never wanted to be a mother. I don’t think there’s a child missing in my life. I develop professionally, I travel, I have a wonderful partner and a place to pursue my passions. Instead of being proud of it, my family forgets about my successes and keeps pointing out to me that we don’t plan to expand our family.
“I don’t want to push a stroller and go to interviews”
The truth is that few women once had a choice. Our mothers and grandmothers were drowning in diapers because no one thought about what they wanted. They did what society expected of them. I’m even more surprised that although times have changed and today successful childless women don’t outrage anyone, they want me to make the same mistake. And I can say without any remorse that I feel happy without children. I can’t imagine leaving everything I’ve achieved just to push a stroller and go to interviews for years to come. I don’t plan to do that and I won’t. Dot.
My partner agrees with my approach and believes that we must enjoy life while we can. We simply do not plan the so-called warm slippers. For us, every day is a new adventure. We hate routine. Of course, all this was pointed out to us at the table.
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Grandma said we were restless wanderers and stressed that a woman should take care of the home. She took out old photos and emphasized that children were her greatest joy. I tried not to react to these taunts, but finally my grandfather took over and said directly: “Well, I hope we will spend next Christmas with our grandchildren.” And my mother, instead of taking my side, just added: “It’s about time.”
“Uncle asked his partner if he couldn’t handle a woman”
Of course, there were also some disgusting comments towards my partner. When my uncle asked him if he couldn’t handle a woman since I didn’t have a belly yet, I couldn’t stand it. I got up from the table and announced that I was going home because I wouldn’t listen to it anymore. No one asked how I was feeling or if I was happy. No one appreciated how far I had come. We live in the 21st century, and women are still judged through the prism of motherhood. Can we really not afford more?
Magda
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Source: Gazeta
Bruce is a talented author and journalist with a passion for entertainment . He currently works as a writer at the 247 News Agency, where he has established himself as a respected voice in the industry.
