I won’t baptize my son, my mother is furious. He says that Sta will not go to heaven because of this

Me and my partner, like most Poles, define ourselves as believers and non-practitioners. On the one hand, I am far from atheist. On the other hand, I couldn’t be a member of any religious community. I don’t think my enormous liberalism allows it. I came to these conclusions as an adult. Previously, when I was a child and lived with my parents, I had to go to church every week. My mom and dad are still close to this institution.

I haven’t gone to church for years. My mother wants me to baptize my son

When I went to another city to attend high school and lived in a boarding school, I gradually began to distance myself from the church environment. Currently, as a thirty-year-old, I can say that it is completely foreign to me. Of course I don’t miss it. Until recently I thought it wouldn’t be a problem. However, I changed my mind after my last conversation with my mother.

Seven months ago I gave birth to my first child – son Staś. Me and my partner are engaged. We are only planning a civil wedding, we haven’t even considered a church wedding. It seemed to me that I had clearly defined plans for the near future. However, my peace was disturbed by the last conversation with my mother. During our last visit, she asked when we would finally baptize Staś. I was surprised because I hadn’t thought about it at all. I’m far from the Church, so I don’t know why this occurred to my mother. I can bet that if I went to a priest now, it would turn out that baptism would be problematic in our case. We are not married, we do not go to church, and we have not gone to confession for several years.

I won’t baptize my son because I haven’t been to the Church for years. Mom is furious sweet marshmallow //shutterstock

It hurts me that I have to explain my decisions to my mother

In my opinion, baptism in such a case would be a manifestation of hypocrisy. Moreover, I believe that decisions such as the choice of religion should be made in adulthood. However, my mother has a completely different opinion on this matter. He claims that by resigning from Staś’s baptism, we are doing him a huge disservice. And as she added, if something bad happened, he would not go to heaven after death. Therefore, if we decide not to be baptized, then… she will do it herself. Of course, I do not share her opinion. However, it pains me that as an adult I have to explain my decisions to my mother. Our last conversation stressed me out a lot. I don’t want to do something against my will. However, I feel that my mother will not give up easily.