The issue of raising children always raises different opinions. Each parent has an individual approach to it and each chooses the parenting style that seems most appropriate to him. Some people value a completely stress-free upbringing with a lot of care, while some choose a different path. Many people will agree, however, that it is best to simply try to give the child what is best – to combine care and certain rules so that they learn to live independently, but also have a carefree childhood.
Our readers are happy to comment on this topic and share their thoughts and experiences. This is what Sylwia writes in a letter sent to our editorial office: “I am 41 years old. I have one teenager at home, with whom things are obviously different. My son is wonderful, but I would lie if I said that it is an easy age. However, I watch with horror as my “My friend is raising her daughter (she and my son are from the same age group).”
“It’s getting to the point where her mom is doing her homework for her.”
“I swear, this girl doesn’t do anything on her own. It’s getting to the point that her mother even does her homework for her, because Natalka is tired after extra classes. She is at her beck and call – bring me and take me wherever I want, at any time of the day and nights. He doesn’t set any boundaries for her at all. He cleans her room for her – to such an extent that Natalka, for example, asks when he will clean her room and she will move somewhere else for that time. She takes it for granted that after all, mommy will clean up. My friend, of course, also regularly picks up her dirty clothes from the floor, takes out dirty cups and dishes from her room, and washes her socks. Natalka also doesn’t set an alarm for school, because her mom will always wake her up. She puts breakfast and dinner under her nose. the same,” we read in the message sent.
In my opinion, this is how the generation of idiots grows. It is known that I am also caring towards my son, but let’s not exaggerate, he has responsibilities: loading or unloading the dishwasher, preparing his clothes for washing, he knows how to operate the washing machine. I won’t even mention cleaning my room. And Natalka has no idea how to even turn on the dishwasher and, in my opinion, this is due to her mother, who behaves like a maid. I understand a mother’s love perfectly well, I understand sacrifice, but in the long run this is too much for me and it will only harm her in the future.
– I’m writing.
Every now and then I hear: “So Michałek can’t heat up the soup himself?”
Several readers shared their views with us, and the topic really arouses various emotions. For example, 38-year-old Daria, mother of 10-year-old Michał, writes this way: “How many times have I heard from some mothers, aunts, grandmothers that I am shaking over my son unnecessarily, that I would prefer not to let him do anything on his own at all? etc. That kids used to run around the yard normally, fall over, eat whatever they wanted, let themselves go and it didn’t bother anyone. Interesting, maybe it’s worth asking these children – that is us – if everyone really remembers their childhood so well,” says our reader .
“I mean, yes, I agree with one thing – time spent with peers outdoors is great for a child. And my Michał also goes out to play with the children outside the house, but I don’t take my eyes off him even for a moment. I can’t imagine that such a toddler he was flying around the yard alone, and once upon a time it was actually ‘normal’. I am simply aware of the dangers. I also want my son to grow up with the feeling that I am always there for him, that I will help him, that I love him and care for him I care. Of course, many people don’t understand this, and every now and then I hear from my grandmother: ‘Let the kid fly out, nothing will happen if he scrapes his knees’, ‘Why can’t he stay at home alone? You used to stay there when you were younger ‘, ‘But now you’re going to cook something different for him every day? Then you’ll melt him like an old man’s whip’. ‘And Michałek can’t heat up the soup himself?’ ‘” – we read.
I think that children at this stage simply need a lot of attention and affection from their parents. I don’t care what others think about it: I’m just happy about these social changes, that now people approach education in a completely different way. And I see what advantages it has. Mainly because I have a good relationship with my own son
– Daria sums up.
Source: Gazeta
Bruce is a talented author and journalist with a passion for entertainment . He currently works as a writer at the 247 News Agency, where he has established himself as a respected voice in the industry.
