We have been together for 10 years. I keep hearing: “When is the wedding?” Normally it makes me boil [LIST]

Am I the only one who gets irritated by family and friends’ questions about the wedding? I suspect not, so I decided to share what has been inside me for some time. We have been in a relationship with our partner for 10 years. In my opinion, the fact that we called ourselves married wouldn’t change anything in our lives. We are happy, and yet I still hear: “When is the wedding?” Normally it makes me boil. I sometimes reply to my single friends that “right after them”, and to my family that “as soon as they collect money for the wedding”.

I can’t believe that we are in the 21st century and people still have a problem with people living without marriage and sticking their noses into other people’s affairs. Or maybe a wedding, a joint loan for 30 years and a group of children are not the only way to a happy life? Sometimes I get the impression that for some people this relationship is somehow worse. And we are just fine the way it is. We go through life together, we find professional fulfillment, we travel. It’s exactly the way we want it. And spending several dozen or even several hundred thousand on a wedding is a completely unnecessary expense for us. By the way, I also have a small appeal to everyone. Let’s respect the choices of others, let’s not comment or ask about private things, and everyone will surely live a little better.

Gosia.

How to respond to too personal questions?

Many people have trouble answering questions about their personal lives. How to react in such situations? Beata Kołodziejczyk, a real estate strategist, negotiator and communication trainer, shared the way to do this on TikTok.

– Instead of getting nervous, answer with a smile, using one of the following suggestions: “An inquisitive question, but I don’t have the answer”, “I see that you have no problem asking questions, but I don’t always have the answer. And that’s it a question to which you will not get an answer,” she said in the recording. “You also have the right not to answer questions that you consider inappropriate. It is always your choice, never the questioner’s,” she added in the description.

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