This year, Christmas was a very stressful experience for me. I heard texts like “it used to be repaired, not thrown away”, “young people have too many options to choose from”, or “now it will be difficult for me to find someone”. All because I turn 31 this year, and a few months ago my husband and I decided to divorce.
“No support. Only despair and scaring”
I was afraid of the holidays this year. I knew that my loved ones took the news of our breakup very badly. Initially, they hoped that we would get back together. However, when I informed them about the divorce, it was not easy. My mother was crying, my father was scaring me that I would never find someone again, because apparently after the age of thirty it is very difficult. Due to these reactions, my mental condition deteriorated. Zero support. Only despair and fear of what my life is supposed to look like now.
However, something changed during the holidays. I felt that for many of my loved ones I was now a victim of fate, a loser who no longer had a chance for happiness. They genuinely think of me as someone whose life is not successful. My professional successes, health, or general life satisfaction do not matter. The only important thing is that my marriage turned out to be a failure. Interestingly, we are not a conservative family at all. My relatives are considered liberal and tolerant. However, they lack these features when a family member’s life does not go according to some accepted pattern.
It’s not the end of the world for any of them
I noticed that my friends have a completely different approach to this type of issue than their parents, aunts and uncles. In their opinion, it is good that a relationship that has not been going well for a long time is ending. It’s not the end of the world for any of them. After all, so many couples break up and most of them start rebuilding their lives. Plus, they show support, not pity. They give us faith that everything will turn out fine. I also hope that this is what we will be like for our children in the future. In difficult moments, we will support them, not stress them out and clip their wings.
Source: Gazeta
Bruce is a talented author and journalist with a passion for entertainment . He currently works as a writer at the 247 News Agency, where he has established himself as a respected voice in the industry.
