From the Church’s point of view, being a godparent involves not only holding the child for baptism and giving gifts. It is primarily about watching over his religious upbringing. However, in fact, probably few godparents or godmothers take this obligation to heart. Moreover, as various examples show, in later stages of life some people do not even maintain contact with their godchildren. Martyna’s story reminds us of this.
“My parents were surprised that he was completely uninterested in me”
Our interlocutor is currently 29 years old. She never actually met her godfather. He laughs that his parents chose him because he was a promising businessman in the 1990s. So they were probably counting on attractive gifts for their daughter. – However, Uncle Jacek, whom I only know from stories, left for Australia half a year after my baptism and I never saw him again. I remember that when I was little, my parents were surprised that they were completely uninterested in me, Martyna recalls. – And during my first communion, I was sorry that I didn’t receive any gift from him – she adds.
Martyna currently has no problem with the way her godfather behaved. However, he believes that people should approach this role more responsibly for the sake of children. – If we don’t want such an obligation, let’s refuse. I guess it’s better to find an excuse than to make a few-year-old feel bad later, he sums up.
“They mean nothing to me”
31-year-old Iza believes that the institution of godparents is completely unnecessary. As she recalls, when she turned 18, her godmother and godfather stopped being interested in her. She didn’t seek their attention either. – I didn’t invite them to the wedding because they mean nothing to me – says Iza.
However, as he adds, an awkward situation occurred. – At my grandfather’s funeral, two months before the wedding, I met my godmother for the first time in over a dozen years. My mom told me to pretend that my fiancé was just my boyfriend. However, when we went to say hello, it turned out that the godmother already knew about our wedding. However, she didn’t give the impression that she was sorry, Iza recalls.
“Zero contact”
In turn, Ewa’s relationship with her godfather became complicated when he divorced her aunt. – Basically, this relationship disappeared. No contact. As long as they were together, he actually remembered all the occasions, gave gifts, called. Now, even if I get married, I can’t invite him. My aunt, with whom I am quite close, does not want to see him – reveals our interlocutor. The relationship with my godmother wasn’t any better. – She was never a very committed person. I don’t know if she ever asked how I was doing. We have had no contact at all for 15 years, says Ewa.
Source: Gazeta
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