Building a lasting and happy relationship is the constant work of both partners. Sometimes, however, despite our sincere intentions, we are unable to communicate with each other and we feel that something is missing in our relationship. A behavioral therapist looked at four behaviors that cause partners to distance themselves from each other.
The expert lists behaviors that spoil a relationship
First on Arrezo Azim’s list was criticizing his partner and telling him “you don’t care about me”, “I’m not important to you”, “you always only think about yourself”. As the expert noted, such phrases make your other half feel rejected. As a result, you start to grow apart. Later, Azim added contempt to her list. “Oh, are you tired? Don’t be dramatic, I took care of the children all day long. You come home and just lie on the couch,” she gave as an example. In a valuable relationship there should be no room for disrespect and attacking your partner, rolling your eyes and calling him names.
The third factor that spoils contacts between partners is adopting a defensive attitude and making yourself a victim, e.g. by saying: “I was terribly busy today and you know how much I have on my mind… Why don’t you do it yourself?” The fourth and final behavior from the recording that is harmful to a relationship is a phenomenon called “stonewalling.” It most often occurs during an argument. One partner withdraws from the conversation at a difficult and stressful moment, which creates a wall between the partners. This exacerbates the conflict. When one person withdraws into himself, the other feels angry, sad and frustrated.
“My ex did everything”
There were many comments under her video. “We do everything on this list”, “My ex did everything too”, “My fiancé constantly does the third thing on the list” – wrote TikTok users. Couples who experienced the above behaviors also spoke out, but thanks to working together, they managed to get rid of them. “Love always wins,” we read.
Source: Gazeta
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