The first should probably concern how we feel in a relationship with a specific person. But it is worth deepening them and treating this issue a bit more holistically, asking yourself: “What exactly am I looking for in a relationship”? This is the advice of the website Oh.me.pl, owned by the famous psychologist and journalist, Małgorzata Ohme. This question can of course be formulated differently, e.g. “What do I expect from a relationship?” – depending on our preferences and the language we use to express our emotions, needs and expectations. It is worth discussing this issue first with yourself and then with your partner.
The Ohme.pl editorial team even advises not to run away from him on the first date, assuming that such fundamental issues should be raised at the very beginning of the acquaintance. The point is not to be surprised later by the fact that you and your partner are on completely different wavelengths and have completely different goals.
Love and relationship. Every person in love should ask themselves these questions
If something is important to us, has special value – we should not refrain from communicating it to our significant other. Extremely important issues that – if omitted at the beginning of the relationship – may, in the worst cases, even result in the breakdown of the relationship. An example is the issue of having children. Each of us has the right to make our own individual decision in this regard and should be guided by what we want. The above question is also connected with the next one, namely: “Do we have a common vision of the future”?
The second question we should ask ourselves when in a relationship is about mutual respect. Not only in everyday life, but also in crisis situations – because that is when it is most difficult to keep emotions in check. Do we respect each other? Do we respect his beliefs, values, time, preferences and needs? Does your partner respect our beliefs, values, time, preferences, needs…? These are basic issues when it comes to functioning in a healthy relationship.
The third question also concerns an issue that often turns out to be a barometer of moods in our relationship. The authors of the article on the website of “Pomocnia Poznań”, a psychological laboratory, advise asking yourself such a question. How do we resolve conflicts? Arguments and disputes are a natural element of interpersonal relationships.
Although in such situations we often do not fully control our emotions, even in arguments we should avoid an aggressive tone of speech, sarcastic, hurtful mockery, making fun of someone’s appearance, etc. It is worth confronting the question whether we respect each other during an argument. your limits? Is the dispute aimed at solving a given problem or only at throwing negative comments, accusations, etc. at each other? These are extremely important issues that should not be ignored.
Source: Gazeta
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