When we told them we wanted to get married, they were euphoric. They started enumerating, one by one, who we should invite…”aunt Władzia with Adaś, uncle Damian, definitely Sylwia with her husband and children…” and so on. They even started putting together a guest list for us, which included people I don’t know at all! Or I met a long time ago and now I don’t remember because we don’t keep in touch. The same with the wedding hall, the dress. My mother would prefer everything. But when I asked if they would contribute even a small sum to the wedding, their expressions fell. “You must be joking,” I heard. And the standard text: “What are Michał’s parents? They don’t have a son? Only we are supposed to give for the wedding?”.
My parents just don’t want to contribute to our wedding in any way. I even heard that “they won’t give a dime”. Of course, it fell during some kind of fight.
I wouldn’t even ask my parents about it. My future husband comes from a tiny village in the Lublin region. There were times when his family could barely make ends meet. The reaction of my parents, on the other hand, surprised me a lot, because I know perfectly well that it would not be a burden for them. It’s simply about the principle of “let them contribute too!”. And what pisses me off the most is that I never actually asked them for financial help. I’ve always handled everything on my own. I started taking part-time jobs at the age of 16, from the age of 18 I worked regularly and earned extra money. Same in college. Just this one time, couldn’t they help? I do not understand this…
“All the more they should contribute!”
Besides, I think that if they have the conditions for it, and I never caused a problem as a child – on the contrary, I was always independent and resourceful – they should contribute even more! They should even offer it themselves. That’s why I’m shocked. There were even a few arguments about it, during which I reproached them that if they wanted to have fun at my wedding so much and invite people I had never seen, let them at least partially pay for it! Such a sum will not save them, and we will incur the greatest costs anyway.
I’m counting on 20-25 thousand zlotys. Although some of my friends already laugh at me for living in a dreamland. And that we are young and accomplished, it is known that this is a huge expense for us. “Don’t invite hundreds of people, and you can order a cheaper dress from the Internet” – my mother has the answer to everything. Yes, I can and I will, but it’s just a drop in the ocean of wedding expenses. “Michał works in IT, he should pay for most of it” – this is my dad’s “argument”, made up out of his finger, as if my fiancé was some kind of millionaire.
Or maybe I shouldn’t require any help from my parents? I do not know myself. But I feel unfairly treated.
Sonya.
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Source: Gazeta
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