November begins by reminding us of the fragility of life and the transience of the time we have left. The pandemic seems like a very distant moment now, but it was a devastating situation that changed many. She took away our loved ones, brought back ghosts from the past, forced us to face loneliness and that reality that was hidden, but that imprisonment made obvious. Therefore, I believe that, despite the violent times we live in, it is right to seek your happiness. No matter how much we complain, things on the outside will not change unless we change. The first life we ​​have to save is our own, it’s that simple. When we realize that no one will live for us and that accumulating guilt in an attempt to please others will lead us nowhere, except to a dark corner of disappointment, where only silence will embrace us, then we react and truly begin to live for ourselves, the air, taking charge of our actions , but also enjoying the consequences.

In that same vein, I think being a woman in a sexist place is complex, we carry a series of stereotypes that we have to contend with and deal with. Being a mother in that same place is much more difficult. For some reason beyond my understanding, people assume that the responsibility for children is solely the mother’s, even if the father is alive. Now, if this mother chooses the path of divorce, her life can often become hell, because she receives some kind of implicit punishment. She was condemned to put aside her personal life to give it to her children because she could not keep the family together, as society dictates. It worries me that, ironically, the most merciless judges are sometimes their children, but why do we believe that people who have the courage to leave a place where they are not happy are doomed to loneliness? I know people who got divorced and then made life impossible for their ex-partner, manipulating their shared children to sabotage every new relationship, until they were able to force the ex to accept being alone.

Peace is necessary in this life, but it is important to be happy. Let’s leave the fear of other people’s opinion…

Therefore, I believe the time is coming when we must take the reins of our future without waiting for approval or confirmation from anyone. Children will grow up and go on to live their lives just like us. Each parent must take responsibility and both must seek their own happiness. I think children will always be fine as long as they see their parents happy, together or apart. Peace is necessary in this life, but it is important to be happy. Let’s get rid of the fear of other people’s opinions, ignore the questions and criticisms that come from selfishness and embrace with gratitude the opportunities for joy that life gives us. Time waits for no one.

As a result, let’s remember that we are not the owners of the time we have left, for example, at my age I have already lived more than I have left to live, so I make the words of my favorite rocker Patti Smith my own: “You have to go through life trying to stay healthy , be as happy as you can and try to do what you want.” (OR)