The psychologist told how to stop crying for any reason

You can cry from pain, resentment, grief, longing, from happiness, strong joy, surging feelings, and even because of a touching scene in the film – there are no tears without a reason, psychologists say. In any case, there is a reason – even unconscious. But what to do if the tears are so close that they are already interfering with both work and personal life, and should you forbid yourself to cry? The answers to these questions “Doctor Peter” were given by psychologists.

“People can experience the same events in different ways. This is largely genetically predetermined and depends on our nervous system,” explained psychologist Sergei Rozanov. – But there are also conditional factors – strategies fixed in childhood. So, if a child could achieve what he wanted only by crying, then this behavior can persist for life.

The emotional threshold can also be weakened by prolonged exposure to a stressful situation, psychological trauma, excessive nervous tension, physiological causes, lack of vitamins.

Psychologist Elena Lyalina added that increased tearfulness can be both a character trait and a consequence of various mental disorders, such as neurasthenia or depression, as well as hormonal changes in women, such as pregnancy or PMS. “If tears are not associated with a health disorder and the doctor ruled out such a possibility, then perhaps the reason is psychological,” she believes.

Psychologist Adel Khairullina noted that, as a rule, when a person is upset about something and tries to hold back tears, it does not work out well. “In most cases, tears are a manifestation of strong emotions, which, in fact, is natural,” she pointed out. “Forbidding yourself to cry is definitely not worth it, if it’s not about self-torturing sobs. During a negative event, a block is formed in our body. If it is not weakened, serious consequences are possible that will affect health. After all, our body is very smart, and with the help of certain reactions, self-healing occurs, that is, the body tries to normalize its chemical composition. The main thing is to be able to listen to him.

In addition, during crying, stress hormones are released, which our body also prefers to get rid of as soon as possible.

Experts also gave advice on how to stop crying over everything.

Give your nervous system a rest. “Perhaps increased tearfulness is caused by overwork and you need quality rest and positive emotions,” recommends Sergey Rozanov. “It can be sports, walking, pleasant communication, sleep, massage, etc.”

Don’t keep strong emotions to yourself. “You can cry heartily once, defuse emotions in sports, scream heartily in the forest, beat a pillow,” the expert says. “If there is absolutely no one to express the accumulated thoughts, start a diary or write notes and tear them up.”

Switch your attention. “If you feel that you are about to cry, try to take a few slow breaths in and out, switching your attention to breathing,” the psychologist advises. – Raise your head up and smile, keep smiling for a few seconds, putting your thoughts in order. At the same time, you can count from 10 to 1 to yourself.

Be aware of the thought that preceded the appearance of the tears. “You can analyze it, challenge it, come up with a more correct idea that can replace the original one and not cause such emotions,” says Sergey Rozanov. “It is important to understand that only you decide how to respond to the thought that has arisen, but for this you need to bring it to the level of awareness.”

Find the root cause. “Remember when the strategy of responding to a situation with tears was born,” says the psychologist. – Find a more environmentally friendly way to respond – imagine that you reacted in a new way, did not cry, repeat this several times. Remember a few more situations in which you cried for no significant reason – and also play them in a new way. Think of a possible situation in the future in which you also held back tears. Check it out in practice.”

There are other techniques for holding back tears: drink a glass of water, blink quickly, take a few deep slow breaths and sharp exhalations, wash your face with very cold water, or even rub your face with ice cubes.

“These methods can be used at a moment when emotions suddenly “covered”. To understand the problem radically, you will need to work with a psychologist or psychotherapist, ”says psychologist Elena Lyalina.