From early childhood, many girls dream of how they will go down the aisle with their lover in a white dress to the march of Mendelssohn. But not everyone may be interested in marriage, although others are trying to convince them that this is all self-deception and that everyone definitely wants to get married and have a family.
Psychologist Mikhail Labkovsky in his Telegram channel told what to do if everyone around is advised to look for a husband, and you don’t feel that you really need it.
According to the expert, there really were times in the history of mankind when loneliness could cause death. Our ancestors lived in families, in communities. People existed together under one roof to save themselves from enemies and wild animals together, to take care of each other. But today society has changed a lot. If earlier any person outside of society was doomed to certain death, now loneliness is a personal choice of each person.
Labkovsky emphasizes that women with adequate self-esteem do not want to get married at all. They don’t just need any kind of husband: they need to be loved and respected. Such women will not just look for someone and go to the registry office just because “everyone is like that”, “a friend has already married”, “though a bad man, but his own”.
However, if you are basically worried about someone else’s opinion about whether you are married or not, this is already a sign of low self-esteem, the expert pointed out.
He explained that a self-confident person will not rely on the opinions of other people at all – even those closest to him. This is your life, and it is for you to live it, and not for your grandmother, neighbors or colleagues. Especially when it comes to such a responsible and serious step as marriage.
Labkovsky recalled that there will always be people around you who are dissatisfied with you and your choice. If you spend your whole life doing nothing but trying to please others, then pretty soon you can turn into a person who is used by everyone – and no one respects. Therefore, he added, if you simply do not want to get married (now or at all), then this is not a problem. The problem is if you’re worried about what effect this decision might have on others.
Source: Rosbalt
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