Starting the year with and without a partner; a post-pandemic perspective

It is familiar to have mixed feelings every time another year in our lives is close to culminating. The area of ​​sexuality and couple It may currently represent one of the most interesting topics to consider in order to fully experience the festivities and new beginnings in everyone’s life; taking into account that we come with a history anesthetized by the respective confinement and restrictions that obey the still present virus.

We can make reference, as it was before, the a. C. (before Christ) and d. C. (after Christ), now is a. P. (before the pandemic) and d. P. (after the pandemic). And it is that the COVID-19 marked in our lives and in several of the current generations different traces, both digital and psychological, leading to the idea of Enjoy these festivities to the fullest to “make up for lost time” from what was 2020 and part of 2021.

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The month of December is also marked by traditional dates in our culture, such as Christmas dinners, the secret friend game, study promotion meetings, among others. Obviously the most symbolic closure is usually represented by the December 24, 25 and 31, respectively, dates for which it is already a tradition to carry a high emotional load for those who consider these festivities representative.

So, what could be expected this 2022, considering what has been experienced in these two years of pandemic?

The previous patterns of behavior indicate a significant increase in terms of the unbridled enjoyment of the upcoming festivities, which is why if we refer to the recent spikes in infections by COVID-19, the most lethal were at the beginning of 2022, a product of the 2021. end-of-year parties. However, pessimism aside, we must face a virus that is still present among us.

This has proven not to stop the long-awaited and necessary “economic reactivation”, which, in its desire to win followers for services and promotions of all kinds, point to the side of the entertainment and shared consumption. And it is that as biopsychosocial beings that we are, we seek and enjoy spaces with our peers and above all, couples.

Gyms, new scenarios for singles

This is where we can break down both scenarios for our readers. On the one hand, The singles surely they have been able to live many experiences in an acute and express way, in terms of suitors and opportunities that could present themselves.

And it is important to show that the spaces to interrelate mutated significantly as a result of COVID-19. Such is the case in 2021, where many gyms and related places of exercise and fitness they were the main source of encounters and opportunities to court and interact at the “find and meet” level of mates.

This was due at the time to the fact that many entertainment and entertainment centers were still closed due to the obvious restrictions. And added to the erotic potential of the act itself of getting in shape and watching, smelling and listening to others do the same.

In 2021, many gyms and exercise and fitness venues were the main source of opportunities to court and interact at the “seek and meet” level of partners.

The erotic function definitely had its personal mark in this phase of the pandemic, and it is not surprising that certain lags still persist today. This is mentioned by the obvious lack that many of us experience during confinement; time for which the most exploited senses were: sight and hearing.

This explains why, as restrictions are gradually lifted, many debaucheries have been revealed in the news and on social networks. The single state has called for the sexual market is boosted exponentially for the attraction of many glances, likes and encounters.

For this reason, at the end of the year it may be of great interest to take into account the personal analysis of what has been experienced in recent years, 2019 as a pre-pandemic and the festivities of 2020 and 2021. These will serve as a frame of reference or contrast to determine your status as a potential partner to find a partner.

This points to something that is very common in psychological discourse, the “life plan.” Check if it is in the best or at the right time to commit to another person It is key to start a new year in a fresh and responsible way in your sexual life.

Pandemic couples: those who prevailed and those who met

On the other hand, we cannot leave couples. This is one of the edges that perhaps more work has left for us, specialists in sexology and couples therapists. The worlds of couples who have prevailed together during this time and also those who joined or are pandemic couples they can benefit significantly from many resources earned on these dates.

Let’s start with the ones that come pre-pandemic. These couples bring with them two years of extremely strong and intense experience caused by what they experienced during the confinement and subsequent return to the “new normal”. That is, going through what for us is our first pandemic, and hopefully the last. It is a wound that has not yet finished healing.

Therefore, in private consultation It is common to find women who still manifest resentments towards their partners for the apparent abandonment during hard dates of the pandemic because of a family member in critical condition. Just as in the case of men who in his speech place significant emphasis on the lack of intimacy or sex during the period 2020 and 2021.

In these and several other scenarios, the need to “update the software“as I like to call it, to this chip of each one and of the relationship itself, offering the possibility of improvements in sex in and out of bed for everyone.

Always considering that sexuality can and should be expressed in a healthy, responsible and pleasurable way. And that the upcoming dates are excellent opportunities to enhance the true erotic power of our emotions and sense organs. Projecting spaces to share and live new post-pandemic experiences in the true love that each one carries with them, from what has been learned with the personal gains and losses of these times. (YO)