Desire is a motor link that differentiates each person from death, explains psychologist Ginger Ruiz de Briones. And, even though the desire can never be fully satisfied, each year brings with it proposals or goals to consider, which define personal objectives and desires.
“It is the desire that motivates us to be able to continue and follow my purposes: goals, challenges, challenges. It is an impulse, and as an impulse we must also know that the desire must be a desire that is in accordance with what we can really do ”, he emphasizes.
“In psychology we have two types of motivation, we have internal or intrinsic motivations, as well as exogenous or external motivations,” he mentions. The latter are derived from the environment that surrounds them, for example, a reward for meeting an objective, having a professional title, having recognition. Ruiz suggests that for the new year’s goals you think of an ABCD:
A of self-knowledge, learning and achievable: Ruiz says that when we define goals we forget to have time to understand ourselves, to be able to know ourselves, to be able to evaluate what we have done during the previous year and learn from it. “Self-evaluation will always be a good purpose to grow, to know if the result that I am going to have is an achievable result”, he points out.
Everything we set out to do must be within our possibilities and limitations, that is, be consistent with our reality, he says. “What has the pandemic also allowed us? Rebuild, with what we had, reinvent ourselves and if we didn’t have something, at least have an idea of what I can achieve”, he quotes.
He gives an example of the goal of going to the gym. “I can’t propose to go to the gym if I haven’t created a habit of at least exercising before.” This recommendation is reduced to the following sentence: “Goals define ideals, but an unattainable ideal becomes a resounding failure with a flavor of frustration.”
Base B: Ruiz points out that all the goals that are established must start from a base, such as the purpose of each goal. This means that you have to be intentional. “Intentionality creates an action for us, but that action also conforms to living intentionally. That is to say that my goal can create a transcendence of my previous habit, each action must be intentional, which allows us to overcome our previous version ”, he points out.
For this, you also have to base yourself on the time in which the goal can be met. And in a space to thank for what he has accomplished.
C for conclude and grow. Concluding something is not leaving open that process that took an idea to build. The professional says that many times we do not reach the execution stage, and that everything has only remained in thoughts, ideas or plans. “To execute that action, I must also understand that each step is valuable. Goals should not be goals that are achieved overnight, ”she stresses.
It is for this reason that he recommends enjoying the processes and giving them greater recognition. “It is the process that will allow us to conclude and get closer to that goal that we want to achieve”, he comments.
Also, remember that desires must always be articulated to a need for personal growth. For this, he recommends, after concluding the goals, to do an analysis of what I built, what I gained, how I grew with this goal.
D to enjoy. This goes hand in hand with what was mentioned above, of savoring each step that is taken on the way to the goal. “A rigid goal becomes an obligation and not a desire. So a rigid goal quenches the desire.”
positive affirmations
The first step to achieve change is to appreciate what you already have and what you are.says the instructor Gustavo Plazawho has been on the path of yoga for three decades.
“In the yoga tradition we talk about the sankalpaswhich are affirmations that are based on the premise that we already are who we need to be to fulfill the purpose of our lives, that in us is everything we need and that we just have to open up and allow that energy that is already in us to flow and manifest”, explains the expert teacher in yoga, meditation and orientalism.
Nevertheless, Plaza warns that these are not statements of something to be achieved in the future. “Because then I would assume that I don’t have it in my present and, by not having it, I would be working from scarcity, from a vacuum and that cannot be allowed,” he stresses.
Nor is it about denials such as repeating “I am not sick, I am not sick”, because the mind will not translate it positively. But yes, for example, say “I am healthy, I am health”.
Plaza sums it up: Sankalpa is sowing a seed. The word ‘kalpa’ translates as vow, while ‘san’ connects, explains, with what each one manifests or is, thus becoming a vow to manifest our true nature and in a silent resolution that each one carries out. “There is a phrase that I like to repeat very much that says that if you sow a thought, you reap an action and if you sow an action, you reap a habit and then you reap a character and finally, with that character, a destiny.
But how are they different from other New Year’s goals or resolutions? First, in that they are pronounced from the present moment. “The affirmation ‘I am prosperous, I am abundant, abundance flows in me’ would be more appropriate than pretending to say that ‘I want to have a million dollars’.”
How do these affirmations work and how are they practiced? Then, sankalpas must be pronounced from a positive perspective, as a reality that you already recognize in your now and that belongs to you. They must also be concise. “We water this affirmation in the field of the mind with constant repetition, but it must also be cultivated with actions,” he details.
Among the most used techniques to ‘sow this seed’ are meditation and yoga Nidra.
In this last practice, the person lies down (Nidra means sleep). and enters a state of deep sleep, but a state of conscious sleep. “But before you start and while you are relaxing, you sow the kalpa and affirm it three times,” she explains.
“And you consciously begin to reach deeper states of mind and, when you have reached a very, very deep state, which is nearing the end of the practice where your mind is fully receptive, that affirmation is sown again, but we are no longer in the superficial mind, but, we would say, in the subconscious mind, in such a way that this causes a profound effect on the psyche”.
There are also two types of sankalpa: “One type is for the development of an intention, of a specific objective and another, on the other hand, is the manifestation of your divine being, of your authentic purpose of your life.Plaza explains. “And each one is finding his way and refining himself.”
How to find out what your sankalpa is? Listening carefully. “What is life asking of me? What is the silent voice of conscience asking of me at this moment? In general, we must try to connect with the purpose of our life and how we are going to manifest it, once I discover it by listening”, reflects Plaza.
And if what you hear or say to yourself is something negative, the practice will also purify it. “The sankalpa connects you with your essence and makes you remove what prevents the flow of light, balance, harmony or love in your life. Because someone made you feel that you were not worthy of love or that you could not be financially free or fulfill your dreams, when the calls of the heart can be fulfilled if you free yourself from certain mental chains. This fact, he continues, goes hand in hand with the well-known “law of attraction”. “When you vibrate in love, love comes into your life.”
And your finances?
What do I want to get this year? is the initial question that every person should ask themselves before planning their annual finances to achieve certain goals.
The economist Jorge Calderón Salazar suggests thinking about this, and deciding if you want to make a fixed asset expense (acquire a good), or make some type of investment. You must be clear, the fixed income and the expected income, to know your borrowing capacity.
Must be establish the fixed expenses that are monthly such as health, education, mobilization, house rent, payment mortgage credit, basic services, etc.
In such a way that there is always a positive balance at least to be able to have savings conditions. How much should be saved monthly? Between 4 and 10%, the economist recommends. By doing it every month, it should be declared as a fixed expense.
Before planning a new debt, First, you have to review the ones you have pending, since adding one more debt to your credit history could only compromise your ability to pay. If what you are looking for is to lower one of the fixed expenses, you could set yourself the goal of visiting low-cost stores or supermarkets.
“You have to be aware of what you want to do with the money, how you are going to use it. Sometimes, it must be admitted, we spend future income, despite not having it yet (…) so we must be balanced, not get carried away by purchases that can make me dizzy from their offers (…,) without a doubt, people have to be very coherent and aware of their financial situation and their ability to pay”, advises Calderón.
“Let’s be measured, aware of our reality in order to better project our financial future”, emphasizes the expert as a possible personal purpose for this coming year.
Finally, he advises reviewing what is known as ant expenses. “They are those little expenses that we do not pay much attention to, because they are less than $2, but if I repeat that consumption every day, or every week, it could mean at least 15% of your salary”.
Source: Eluniverso
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