“The mother-in-law does not want to contribute to our wedding. Before the engagement, she said something else”

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Some time ago, my fiance and I decided to start preparations for our wedding. We initially set the date, we have been looking for a room for some time, we are thinking about choosing a DJ or a band, a photographer, and we are also browsing the invitation templates on the web. I will not say, it is all very exciting, especially for a person like me who has always liked to organize various events. Unfortunately, my enthusiasm is regularly cooled down by prices, which in some cases are really high, not to mention the fact that everything with the addition of “wedding” is even more expensive.

Before and shortly after the engagement, we discussed the topic of the wedding with our parents. My parents said right away that they would help us as much as they could. Of course, we want to pay for everything ourselves to a large extent, but I must admit that such support from parents will be very useful to us. We both have a fixed income, but for some time we have been repaying our first loan, which we took out for an apartment, so we don’t have much savings. However, we decided that if our parents would support us, we could make a decision about the wedding and the wedding.

Before the ring landed on my finger, my boyfriend’s mom urged us to go to the wedding and the wedding reception. She has even mentioned several times that (like my parents) she and her husband can also contribute. Now that we are in the process of preparation and we can see how much funds are needed for such an event, she pretends that the topic was not there. And it’s not like she can’t afford it. She can do more than we do. Of course, she has the right not to contribute, but why did she mention earlier that she will help us finance the wedding … I wonder if it would be better to postpone our wedding. During this time, we will put aside a little more money and maybe then the preparations will not be associated with such financial stress … Do you have experiences with a similar situation? Do you think talking to her could make a difference?

G.

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