“I am not going to my girlfriend’s wedding, because I don’t want the money. I prefer to spend it, for example, on a trip”

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For as long as I can remember, I have not liked going to weddings and receptions. Streams of alcohol, persistent uncles and these ambiguous games during … It’s all just repulsive to me. Not to mention the fact that I always feel sorry for such events of money. Recently, I received an invitation from a friend for her, which I’m not going to go to. However, my decision was met with indignation by other colleagues.

The wedding is more than 150 kilometers away from my town, so I not only have to get there and come back, but also spend the night. However, I am not part of my immediate family, so I have to cover the cost of the hotel accommodation myself. The wedding ceremony and reception will take place in a very elegant place and will be kept in a glamorous style. The bride and groom also established a tracksuit code, informing on the invitations that clear outfits are required. So I would have to buy both a new dress and shoes and an elegant handbag, i.e. spend another few hundred zlotys. I will not even mention the beautician and the hairdresser. And … It has been assumed that it should contain at least as much as the bride and groom pay for a couple of invited guests, so taking into account the place, I should put at least PLN 500 in it.

I talked to a few friends who were outraged by my attitude. I do not understand it at all, because some of them are in a worse financial situation and have said themselves that it will be a considerable expense for them. However, they will not refuse to come “so as not to make the bride unpleasant”. Of course, this is their personal decision and they will do as they wish, but I am not going to change my mind under pressure from other people. For the immediate family, I usually make an exception, but I see no reason to “sacrifice” myself like that for each friend from whom she receives an invitation. It is no pleasure for me, and a huge expense! Too bad, at best he will be offended. If I stay at home, I will save at least PLN 1,500, which can be a large part of the amount for a nice trip or vacation.

Olga

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