“Can a man who does not want to get married still change his mind? I stop delusing myself”

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I am 28 years old and although I have no urge to get married until my 30th birthday, or quickly become a mother. However, I know that one day I would like to start my family. I grew up in a home where my parents have been happily married for 30 years, I also have two siblings and I would like to have such a family one day. I have been in a relationship with M. for five years, we have been living together for three years and it is really great. Until recently, I thought that we were both planning a future together, but during one of our last conversations it turned out that he sees our relationship in the future differently than I do. It’s obvious to me that if two people are happy with each other and want to spend their lives together, then an engagement and marriage are just the next natural step. But not for him …

He thinks it is good as it is and there is no point in changing it. I wonder if it might have been influenced by his parents’ divorce when he was 13. He says that no piece of paper is needed for him to live together or a happy relationship, and it certainly does not guarantee a successful relationship. Okay, I agree with the latter, but I don’t want to be in an informal relationship all my life. I want to have a husband and children someday, to be a wife. I understand if he is not ready for it now and is not expecting a wedding in a year or two, but I also don’t want to wait forever. For a few days after we talked about the wedding, the atmosphere between us was very dense. Although it is a bit better now, I feel that we will have another, much more serious conversation soon …

I care about him and I don’t want to leave rashly, but I want a husband and my own family in the future. I wonder if a man who doesn’t want to get married can still change his mind? Unfortunately, I stop deluding myself. Perhaps, however, there are women among Internet users whose partners were also against getting married and changed their mind over time?

Agata

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