They found love on Tinder; learn how romance blossoms in the controversial app

More people than we think are in Tinder expanding your social circle and of course sentimental. Until last year the application accumulated more than 78 million downloadsaccording to the App Magic database.

That is why when we asked acquaintances and acquaintances of their acquaintances, almost all of them indicated knowing a story of romance between their relatives that flourished in this dating application, which by the way in the last week was in the spotlight after the premiere of The Tinder scammer.

These couples agree that the application is neither bad nor good, it depends on the use that is given to it, be sure of what you are looking for: flirting, friendship, casual encounters or soulmate; and above all make personal safety prevail.

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After three years of dating, they get married at the end of the month

He confesses that he wanted to date girls; she was just looking for friends to chat online. Although they had two different motivations, their match virtual and in real life he exceeded those expectations and at the end of the month they will celebrate their wedding after three years of courtship.

Rodolfo Vintimillaa 34-year-old sports journalist, and Mui Lin Fon Fay, a 31-year-old pastry chef, met on Tinder in August 2018. “I had quit my job, moved house and didn’t hang out with my friends, I wanted to chat with someone,” recalls Mui Lin. “I’m not trying to be romantic right now, but seeing his photos I really liked his smile,” adds Rodolfo.

Their first date happened after two months of chatting. For Mui Lin, this time was very important to cultivate her trust with him, as she recognizes the dangers of dating someone who only knows each other online. They went to a film function that they remember little memorable; after the tape they said goodbye and each one left on their own, just as they arrived.

But the chemistry that emerged through messages gave them a second chance. The following month, Rodolfo surprised the chef with a dinner for his graduation where they found out that they share the birthday date and also starred in their first kiss. At the beginning of the following year they were officially dating.

And to think that your link almost didn’t happen. “As I saw that people wanted something else, sending inappropriate photos and messages, I stopped using Tinder for a while. When I got ready to erase the apps I saw that someone had written to me.” It was Rudolph.

Regarding the visions that this application provokes, they recognize the importance of giving themselves time to investigate the other person as much as possible. “I went out with a couple of girls, as a journalist it was my nature to ask a lot of questions, and that’s how I was realizing that they weren’t looking for the same thing as me,” says Rodolfo. “I think it’s a good tool, it’s useful. Some people think it’s just to go out and have sex. I think you have to be clear about what you want to use it for and what you can find.”

They were just looking for friends, then they fell in love

Like many love stories, the spouses Maria de los Angeles Tamayo (43 years old) and Christian Alarcon (47 years old) found each other without looking for each other. “I joined Tinder when I was 38 years old, because I felt that it was difficult to meet people my age, the circles of friends and family were getting smaller, everyone was married and I traveled a lot for my work,” recalls María, who works as a sales manager

Cris, as he is called by his wife, was also worried about his age when making new friends, especially since he had recently been divorced. “I wanted to widen my circle. Listen to other criteria. People my age were on a different roll, my friends’ partners didn’t like me because I was the divorced one. There were people who were looking for a partner for me, but they had nothing to do with me”, shares this logistics expert.

He jumped on Tinder about six years ago when he heard about the apps on a radio show. Although he confesses that he was not so clever with the dynamics of the application (because to advance-swipe– the photos unintentionally gave likes to profiles that he was not interested in), he was clear that he wanted to find people in a very close radius to him, thanks to the geolocation function that characterizes this application. His intention was not to be so far from his daughter, to whom he spent most of his time after his separation.

The funny thing is that when he did match with Maria, she was in the Dominican Republic. A glitch of destiny? They don’t know it, but thanks to that technological error they fell in love. He was intrigued by her bilingual (English and Spanish) profile of hers that made her look foreign. She loved the photo of her, “he looked gorgeous!” he clarifies. “We started talking in March 2017, we went out a month.”

Like the previous couple, their second date was the best, because she likes the theater and he surprised her by inviting her to a short-form function. “For June he asked me to be his girlfriend. And in December 2017 she asked me to be her wife”.

María emphasizes the need to be jealous of the personal integrity of those who seek an experience like hers through this medium. One tip is not to share the cell phone number right away, she says, preferring to establish enough trust through chat than apps integrates. “And a first date should always be in a public place and go under your own steam,” she recommends.

They started a family after Tinder

Pedro Bajaña and Ana Ruth Mendoza They feel that they were united on Tinder, like many, by the desire to open their circle and venture out to meet others without having mutual friends. It’s risky, they admit, and a bit scary. But the two were very careful when they met in person.

In addition to what previous couples have said, these five-year-old spouses with two children share advice that worked for them: not only meet in public places, but even where they are known by the staff or by people in the sector.

In fact, that was their first date, after chatting for several weeks while doing match, because she was captivated by his beard and he was captivated by the fact that, in addition to being pretty, she is a soccer fanatic. “She had chosen the place, because it was a cafeteria that she always went to and was known by those who worked there,” recalls Roberto. “When we arrived just that day it had closed, I decided on the place where a friend worked and we spent almost three hours eating and talking.”

For Roberto, he reveals, this was the first date he got on the app. “We never went to WhatsApp immediately, it was just for the apps. She didn’t give me her number easily. We talked a lot about our day to day, until I proposed to meet her.

Fortunately for both of them, it was also their last date. A month after they met they fell in love and eleven months later Roberto proposed to her. They celebrated the civil commitment after a month and a half and after six months they sealed their love at the altar.

“In the beginning we were both afraid, because the apps it only shows you a name, we didn’t even have a friend in common, nothing united us in life”, points out Ana Ruth. “But the apps he did his thing, he found us! Today we have a family with two children and we are very happy. Sometimes it is necessary to open the circle and venture into the new now, with more security than before”.

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not everything is pink

Bad experiences in this application abound to the same extent. The story of the suitor known as Tindler Swindler, simon leiev (also recognized as Shimon Yehuda Hayut), invoked the situation of protecting personal data and distrusting anyone who appears too perfect on dating sites and applications, as some scammers take advantage of crushes to commit crimes.

Pamela, who tells her story anonymously, he found himself in this way with a gallant who did not turn out to be as he was painted either. After ending a relationship of many years, she was excited to date again and perhaps give love a second chance. She did match with a thirtysomething just like her. She told him about her recent breakup and they agreed that it was not the place to start a courtship yet, after all, they just met.

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However, after a month of dating, they realized they liked each other and kissed. “She was dazzling with her appearance. He was tall, a good dancer, gentlemanly,” she recalls. From then on, Pamela says, the man exhibited behaviors that struck her as unusual for someone she had just met. “He wanted everything very quickly, not only sex, but for him to meet his family, because in that month he said that he had fallen in love with me locally and that he wanted to get married now.”

When she asked him to distance himself, he became violent with her in the middle of the street. From there she blocked him from her contacts and changed lines, although he wrote to her from different numbers asking for forgiveness and assuring him that she did not want to lose her friendship. But as a supposed friend of hers, he appeared to her wherever she was. This harassment disturbed Pamela’s emotional state, she was afraid to leave her house and meet him and that he would explode with anger with her again. The situation only ended when Pamela began to leave her accompanied by her with a more corpulent friend of hers, because, according to her, the Tinder man never bothered her again when he saw her with him.

Obviously Pamela walked away from Tinder, but not forever. Since this year she has taken up the application, now paying for her premium service. She is doing better this way, she assures her, because the user accounts are verified; In addition, she helps him to better filter the new suitors of hers.