I decided to talk about it because I’m a bit tired of other people’s critical looks and questions full of false concern about whether I’m not afraid that I’ll be alone in my old age. No, I’m not. It’s a good thing they don’t ask about that mythical glass of water anymore, because I would probably collapse on the spot… I have a wonderful husband and we consciously decided not to have children (we do have two dogs and two cats). I would also never decide to have a child just so that they would take care of me in my old age.
She’s 45 and never wanted to be a mother. “Let’s dismiss the argument about old age being lonely as a fairy tale”
I think that this approach is simply doing harm to the child. Because children have the right to grow up and have their own lives, which some parents – as I have observed – do not understand. So let’s really dismiss this argument about old age being lonely.
Of course, I admire all parents who raise their children with dedication and I bow to them. I have friends I’ve known for years. They are wonderful mothers and their husbands are wonderful fathers. They approach parenting very carefully and consciously. They love their children, are an incredible support for them and would do anything for them.
‘I’m 45. I’m childless and I’m fine with that. Being a mother is not my cup of tea’ (illustrative photo) fantom_rd / Shutterstock.com
“Everyone should live as they want”
I am their children’s beloved aunt. I love these kids and I feel perfect in my role. I have been to all the baby showers, I always give the kids presents, I play with them whenever I can, I take them to my place for the weekend when the parents want to go away and relax… Everyone should live as they want and it’s none of anyone’s business what someone else chooses to do with their life. However, when I talk about it in a new company, the reactions are extremely different. The question of whether I’m not afraid of being alone in old age is asked most often. But there are other “tidbits” as well. People, I have one appeal. Let’s respect each other and our choices.
Monica.
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