Cash instead of a gift, wine instead of flowers. Expert on wedding invitations: It’s a mistake

The wedding season has begun in earnest, and with it there are eternal discussions about how much is “appropriate” to give in an envelope as a gift or how to dress. There are also other issues related to weddings that should be taken into account not only by the invited guests, but also by the bride and groom. One of them concerns wedding invitations, a mistake that many people have made in recent years.

Wedding invitations – a common mistake of young couples. Expert: Not tactful

Aleksandra Pakuła runs an Instagram profile where she teaches her and her followers the rules of etiquette. In one of her videos, she raised the issue of pictograms placed on wedding invitations.

– Wine instead of flowers, cash instead of a gift. Pictograms placed on invitations are a mistake, placing them is tactless. Whether guests want to bring a gift and in what form they want to give it is entirely up to them. The host or the person inviting should not expect gifts or presents in any specific form. Pictograms on invitations have become so popular that it is increasingly surprising when they do not appear. Because this is another situation in which it is easiest to stand out with elegance in the 21st century, says an etiquette expert.

“On the one hand, I understand, but on the other hand, is there any other solution than accepting three irons and a ton of flowers withered after two days? I think it’s a total waste of the guests’ money, which could be spent on something that will bring joy to the young ones. Some subtle note ?” – one of the people asked. “It’s very interesting. I’ve been looking at this issue for a long time and I’m almost sure that pictograms don’t change anything. We don’t buy irons or towels as gifts anymore. And guests don’t even want to go to a flower shop to buy flowers,” replied Aleksandra Pakuła.

Cash instead of a gift, wine instead of flowers. People about pictograms on wedding invitations: “Not nice”

There were also many other comments under the post in which people agreed with what the expert said: “Finally. Because other planners promote this idea. I think it is a great tact. The same applies to a box for envelopes held by a witness or a parent,” “I agree with your advice. I also think that it is rude to set specific requirements for a gift to the guests. Similarly, I am very outraged by the fact that it is an unwritten agreement to expect the guests to cover the cost of the wedding. ‘Because it is appropriate to give so much and so much.'” That’s why Nowadays, attending a wedding is increasingly becoming an unpleasant chore for many guests”, “I avoided pictograms like the plague, but the greatest evil are still poems. Two adults make the most important decision in their lives, they start a new family, they spend a lot of money on the wedding, and on the invitation there are poems like from a kindergarten play. It is so offensive to dignity that it should be banned along with rhyming wishes, it is worse than disco polo.”