Wedding invitations, although they are basically a piece of paper with information about the date and address of the ceremony, can cause a lot of problems. Both for the bride and groom and invited guests. Young people can spend whole days looking for the right pattern and wondering how to change the guests’ names or how to ask for money instead of flowers. It turns out that among the many issues related to invitations, fiancées often do not take one into account. And this may leave quite a bad taste.
Wedding invitations? You can make a real mistake
Wedding invitations require some gymnastics. We have to think about the pattern, colors, a nice envelope, but above all, the content. We usually put the date and time there as well as the place of the ceremony and wedding, sometimes also a map with directions. We also add a love message and information about the preferred form of gift.
However, when preparing invitations, you can make a lot of mistakes. Most often, you hear about those related to surname variations by accident. It turns out that another problem often arises – inviting “children” who are no longer children. Sometimes for a dozen or even several dozen years.
Wedding invitations? You can make a real mistake photo: shutterstock / jujikrivne
How not to invite to a wedding? “When you get married, it might come.”
– I found out that my cousin Asia is getting married from my parents, who received an invitation in the mail – Ewelina began in a conversation with our website. – When they opened the envelope, well, amusement fought with embarrassment. Even though I turned 18 a long time ago, I was added to their invitation as a child. Without your own name, without an accompanying person. I will add that I have been in a long-term relationship for 5 years.
In other words, I’m over 30 years old, and on the wedding invitation I’m just an addition to my parents. Am I going to a wedding? No, I will thank you this way. My parents will pass this information on to the future bride. Because “children” have no voice.
It turns out that this is not an isolated case. After a little “reconnaissance in the field”, I came to the conclusion that inviting adult children with their parents is really popular. Daria had a similar situation:
– I am 30 years old and have a permanent partner. I was invited to this year’s wedding together with my parents, in one invitation. Shame on the whole family! I understand that we’re not the closest, but it’s not like we see each other every 10 years. And even if it is, it would be a good idea to do some research, at least who is and how old.
– I was invited to the wedding and reception, without mentioning the accompanying person. But… on an equal footing with my parents. But I have similar situations with my family – also in the case of other celebrations – where this accompanying person is not mentioned at all. I once heard that: “when you get married, he can come,” Karina laughed.
– I also got one like that once, or rather my parents, because I was listed at the end as the youngest. The best thing is that it probably happened when I was in college or right after, so I was already an adult – said Iwona.
I will never forget the wedding my cousin invited me to. I was about 20 years old. Not only did they include me on the same invitation with my parents (and without an accompanying person), but also – note – they sat me at the table with the kids! If I knew they would treat me like that, I wouldn’t even go there
– Dominika was outraged.
“Mom suggested cutting costs and including them in one invitation with their parents.”
Including children on one invitation together with their parents is perfectly understandable, but only if they are small children. When they are already a teenager (or at least 18), they would certainly feel more welcome if they received an individual invitation. If we significantly reduce the number of guests, it is worth mentioning this when inviting. Our interlocutor Natalia was organizing a small wedding and faced a similar problem. She solved it in a similar way:
Neither I nor my husband had much money, so we decided to have a small wedding, only for our closest 40 people. We had two situations where we invited teenagers. My mother suggested cutting costs as much as possible and including them in one invitation with their parents. But we insisted that they are already big and they will definitely be nicer if they get separate ones. Besides, it’s only an additional PLN 5 for the invitation. When handing it over, we said: ‘Sorry, without an accompanying person. We hope you will join us on this day and have fun.’
– said Natalia.
Source: Gazeta
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