Arguments are a natural part of every relationship, and in principle there is nothing wrong with them. Provided, of course, we respect the needs and boundaries of our partner and do not get carried away by emotions. However, technological development has made all disputes in relationships and relationships often look completely different. For example, they often no longer take place face to face, but via instant messaging. That is why in recent years he has popularized “fexting”. It is a combination of two English words: “fight” – to fight and “text” – to send messages. In short, it is simply an argument via instant messenger, such as Messenger, Whatsapp, or text messages.
Added to this is the fact that not all of us find live confrontation easy. That’s why many people choose this form of communication, which is also influenced by the fact that it is simply faster and more convenient. Plus, we have more time to think about the answer, etc. And that’s what can be disastrous. Such a “shortcut” in resolving conflicts in a relationship may cause our relationship to deteriorate. Especially if the disagreements concern important matters
Is flexing a “relationship killer”? “They want to have more time to prepare their answers”
Writing messages can lead to incorrect assumptions, interpretations and suppression of anger, which then erupts at an unexpected moment. Especially since during fexting we cannot see the other person’s facial expressions, movements and body language. That’s why it’s so easy for the conflict to escalate. If these problems start to accumulate, we have a ready breakup scenario.
This phenomenon was extensively described by foreign media, including: “Business Insider”. As couples therapist Tami Zak, quoted by the website, noted, “since texting has become the preferred method of communication among millennials and Generation Z, fexting has become inevitable.”
Some people choose fexting because of the convenience, others choose this method of communication because they want to have more time to prepare a precise answer.
– says clinical psychotherapist Jaime Mahler, quoted by Businessinsider.com. At the same time, experts will emphasize that this does not mean that we should completely give up writing messages and always wait for a face-to-face conversation. Flexing is simply a bad solution when it comes to important matters. In trivial matters, we can easily rely on the news. – For example, if your partner is annoying you by buying the wrong groceries, it may be better to text him about it rather than wait to talk about it in person, Jaime Mahler explained.
Source: Gazeta
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