“My husband gave me a vacuum cleaner for Christmas, and he forgot about the birthday. I had enough and left”

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The story of my ex-marriage is painfully trivial. We got married when I was 25 and he was 28. A year after the wedding, the first child appeared, and two years later, another one. For many years we have created a happy family, bringing up our children and at the same time fulfilling ourselves professionally. We hardly ever argued. In addition to taking care of children and working full-time, I also ran our house. My husband always had lunch on his return from work, clean clothes in the wardrobe, and the house was sparkling clean. I wanted so much to be the perfect wife, mother and housewife that I forgot myself.

At one point, when my adult children left for college and began to live their lives, I realized that in the last many years my husband not only stopped taking care of our relationship, but also did not hear from him the word “thank you” for it all. what i do every day. We’ve been living apart for a long time. I tried to revive our relationship, but for it to work out, we need efforts of both sides. The last Christmas we spent alone turned out to be the highlight, because the children decided to travel. First, my husband forgot about my birthday, which is 23/12, and then, just after Christmas Eve, he gave me a vacuum cleaner as a gift, because a few days earlier I had told him that the previous one had broken down. At the sight of such a present, tears of disappointment ran down my cheeks. I understand that it was the equipment that was needed at home, but handing it over to me on the occasion of Christmas was like a cheek.

After 25 years of marriage, the cup of bitterness has shed in me. This time I put everything on one card, packed the most necessary things, took my purse, coat and just left. This year, for the first time since time immemorial, I will spend the holidays happy. After many years at the side of a man with whom I had not felt an attractive and loving woman for a long time, I believed in myself and found a partner with whom I feel alive. We spend this year’s holidays in warm countries, where we focus primarily on ourselves. At this special time, I wish all women to have the courage to fight for their happiness, because it is never too late.

A.

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