My mother-in-law was offended that it was her son who cooked Sunday dinner. He says I “should”

Is it just me or does it feel like some people haven’t moved with the times at all? My mother-in-law clearly missed the fact that we are already in the 21st century… Recently, we invited her for Sunday dinner, thinking that she would enjoy spending some time with us. She barely crossed the threshold and we already regretted it. As soon as she found out that it was my husband who cooked, she was offended, saying that it was me who “should” cook, not her son. – If I were you, I would burn with shame – I heard. Can you imagine that? I thought I would just fall down.

“She outdid herself this time”

And anyway, I didn’t force him to do anything. At home, we share responsibilities from the beginning, after all, each of us lives there the same way. This time it was his job to cook and I baked the cake. Of course, my husband tried to translate it to his mother, but somehow it didn’t get through. She had made various embarrassing accusations more than once, but this time she had outdone herself. And not only her, because when I called to complain to my mother, I heard another thing that I “should have done”. This time that “I should respect the views of my husband’s mother.” I respect you, but I won’t let anyone interfere with our roles in our marriage.

I would like people to finally understand that there is no one “correct” model of a relationship, and that a man cooks is not something to be ashamed of, but something attractive. If someone wants to have a marriage with a “traditional” division of roles – if everyone is happy, no one cares. Let’s respect each other’s choices and life will be better for everyone.

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My mother-in-law was offended that her son had cooked Sunday dinner. He says I ‘should’ (illustrative photo) Viktoriia Hnatiuk / Shutterstock.com

“It’s no disgrace to a guy if he cooks something”

Some time ago it appeared on our website. – Grandpa had everything served to him, there always had to be the same fork on the table, his favorite. If grandma gave me another one because the other one was dirty, she had to wash it and replace it. They both couldn’t come to terms with seeing my husband making his own food. Grandma actually blamed me for not making him breakfast or sandwiches for work. Where we both work the same. This is the norm for us. It’s no disgrace to a guy if he cooks something, vacuums or washes windows, said Asia.

– After 10 years, my mother still cannot come to terms with the fact that my husband cooks in our house. She is very embarrassed by this and constantly explains to her in-laws during family dinners that Iwona “also did something there.” It is no longer possible to explain to this generation that such an arrangement is ok, said Iwona.

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