I turned 25. Grandma called with best wishes and said: At your age I had five children.

Our grandmothers got pregnant as soon as they turned 18 and in those days it was completely normal. Our mothers, on the other hand, had children when they were about 25 years old. And although it is known that each case is different, this is the most likely one.

Today, young Polish women often delay having children because, as they say, “first they want to enjoy life and then put themselves in diapers.” Travel and personal development come first, then marriage and children. This approach to life is often widely commented on by loved ones who want grandchildren or great-grandchildren to come into the world. Recently, our reader, Mrs. Laura, shared with our website her reflections from a conversation with her grandmother. She told her that she couldn’t imagine raising small children after the age of 30.

Young people not ready for a child? There are many incentives that distract them from this decision

I’m 25 years old and only now I feel alive. This is because I graduated from college and moved out of my parents’ house and now live on my own. I work in a good corporation, rent an apartment and pay my own bills. I’m doing great. I don’t have a boyfriend because I haven’t met anyone who would turn my head. I know I should be looking around, but for now I’m taking it easy. I guess it’s because I have great friends who occupy my time. I rarely have evenings off, so I don’t feel lonely at all, but my family thinks differently about it.

Motherhood isn’t for everyone?

Grandma called with best wishes and said: “When I was your age, I had five children.” I laughed, but deep inside I felt it was high time to think about settling down. However, it didn’t last long, because when I thought that I could put myself in diapers at my own request and give up my freedom, I didn’t want to. I guess I value freedom and independence too much. Motherhood would take that away from me.” Laura.