“My mother-in-law says that postpartum doesn’t exist and is surprised that I’m in bed after giving birth. I exploded.”

Family relationships are very difficult, especially those between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Conflicts between two women who are actually seeking one man do not lead to anything good. Most often, they result from differences in characters and differences in perception of the world. Unfortunately, you can’t choose your mother-in-law, but it’s worth choosing a husband who is determined to divorce his mother. And although even before the wedding it often seems that the future husband’s mother is good and agreeable, sometimes reality plays tricks. A married woman learned this the hard way when, in a sincere letter to the editor, she described the behavior of her mother-in-law who had just met her grandson.

“After giving birth, I felt happy and well taken care of, but the postpartum period itself was not very kind to me”

Two weeks ago I gave birth to my first child. We are newly married, but we wanted to have children from the beginning, so I am very happy that the three of us will celebrate our next anniversary. It has helped us a lot that we like children and have a motherly instinct. I remember my pregnancy very fondly, but I know that it is also thanks to my husband, who watched over everything. After giving birth, I felt happy and well taken care of, but the postpartum period itself was not very kind to me. It all started with me feeling a lot of pain. So much so that I couldn’t perform basic activities and going to the bathroom was almost impossible. My partner took care of the child mainly because I couldn’t cope. Fortunately, he understood all this, but unfortunately he was the only one.

“I thought that every mother realized that childbirth has its own rules and that each woman’s body heals differently”

When my husband told me that my mother-in-law said there was no postpartum period and was surprised that I was lying in bed after giving birth, I exploded. I felt really bad that she was telling this to the whole family and implying that I was lazy. I really didn’t do it on purpose. I thought that every mother realized that childbirth has its own rules and that each woman’s body heals differently. I am devastated by my mother-in-law’s attitude and I don’t want to see her in person. I don’t know why I’m writing this letter. I guess he wants to complain and show that what they say about mothers-in-law is unfortunately true.

Julia.

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