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Bella DePaulo, author of the book “Single at Heart” and a PhD from Harvard University, is celebrating a unique achievement this year. She is 70 years old and has not been in a relationship until now. In an article for the American “HuffPost”, she shared a grateful reflection on her experience, emphasizing that loneliness is not a curse at all, but a source of great joy and satisfaction.
What does being “single at heart” mean? “For us, it’s a way to live life to the fullest.”
The 70-year-old shared that growing up, she didn’t know that you could choose loneliness as a way of life. She believed in the stereotype that everyone really wants something, consciously or not, and its lack can only lead to sadness and misfortune over time.
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However, in her adult life, DePaulo discovered that it is possible to be “single at heart”, which in Polish can be translated as being “single at heart”. As a sociologist, Bella has spent decades studying singles’ lives and noted that self-sufficiency is a profound experience full of freedom that leads to a life consistent with the passions and values of the individual.
The power of self-sufficiency. What are the advantages of not getting into relationships?
Bella DePaulo, thanks to her research, concluded that “single at heart” they are happy because they don’t get into relationships, not despite this. Freedom is a great value for them. The author emphasizes that it is not only a luxury, but also the key to an authentic life.
The researcher also emphasizes that “singles at heart” can enjoy loneliness, which seems to be a superpower for them, especially in the context of the COVID-19 pandemic. In addition, according to DePaulo, people who are not in a committed relationship are more connected to their loved ones than their committed counterparts. Their bonds with family or friends are often deeper and more intimate.
“I’m 70 years old and I’ve been single all my life. Everyone is wrong about single people.”
The author clearly emphasizes her love for solitude. Contrary to popular belief, for her Life without a relationship does not mean isolation or sadness. He believes that the biggest myth is that the only thing singles want is to find a romantic partner. According to her, acting this way would be a huge loss for them.
For people like me, the risk is not what we lose if we don’t organize our lives around a romantic partner, but what we lose if we do.
Bruce is a talented author and journalist with a passion for entertainment . He currently works as a writer at the 247 News Agency, where he has established himself as a respected voice in the industry.