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Recently, a TikTok in which a woman explained a certain morally questionable dating technique went viral on the Internet. It was named penny datingwhich we can translate as: dating on a dime. What is this manipulation technique? How to protect yourself against it? Let’s take a closer look at this
Penny dating, or manipulation of commitment in a relationship. How to recognize it?
What is dime dating all about? It is an approach that controls the measure of commitment put into the relationship and is strategically manipulated. @erikatham compared this process to a monetary investment.
If someone were to invest a 100% relationship, they would do it at the very beginning in this method. Later, strategically, engagement will decline. The important point is that after any significant drop in investment, for example to 90%, there will be a slight increase to 95%, but never to the initial value. Over time, involvement becomes less and less which makes the person on the other side of the relationship settle for “pennies”.
Why should the penny dating theory work? We explain the likely mechanism
Penny dating is based on the assumption that after each decrease in commitment, the other person’s doubts about the relationship are to be alleviated by a renewed increase in investment. After each drop and increase in engagement, instead of feeling like she lost 5%, she suddenly feels like she gained 5%.
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The problem is that this level gradually decreases, which leads to the partner of the person using this type of technique may significantly reduce their expectations about the relationship and become dependent on it.
How to avoid penny dating? First of all, open communication
The TikTok in which this approach to dating was explained has already reached over 7.7 million views and many people were disgusted by this approach, to say the least. Referring to the article from Psychology Today, first of all, talk openly with the person you are in a relationship with, if you notice him pulling away for no apparent reason.
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Sources: psychologytoday.com, news.com.au, unilad.com
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