“I heard that a cesarean section is not a birth. I sat down and cried”

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Even before I got married, I knew I wanted to have three children. However, the most important thing for me was to find the right person who would create a warm home with me. When I met my current husband, I knew he was a good man. Unfortunately, his family was not kind to me. Despite this, we decided to get married and together we have three wonderful children. When I think back to my births, I want to cry because I imagined them completely differently.

“Every woman becomes a real woman when she gives birth to a child”

Each of the births I experienced was like a horror for me. I really wanted to give birth naturally. I read a lot and was prepared for everything, but my body refused to obey me. The gynecologist recommended a cesarean section and there was no way I could give birth naturally because I simply wouldn’t survive. I felt bad about it because my mother-in-law once told me that every woman becomes a real woman when she gives birth to a child. Best of all, she only talked about natural childbirth. Then I also heard that a cesarean section was not a birth. I sat down and cried. I would like to forget about this evening.

“My mother-in-law ruined everything in an instant. No woman can plan her birth from A to Z.”

To this day, I don’t understand why people can delve into other people’s lives so much and stick new pins in their backs every time. For me, giving birth may be a bad experience, but I will remember it forever because then I received the most beautiful gift from life. My mother-in-law ruined everything in an instant. After all, no woman will prepare a birth plan from A to Z. When making such a decision, the doctor takes into account the woman’s condition, possible health indications for a cesarean section, as well as the risk of failure of natural childbirth. Both another cesarean section and an attempt at natural childbirth are associated with the risk of complications. Despite this, there is still so much venom in people. How to stop thinking about your mother-in-law’s words? I can’t deal with it.

Beata.

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What is a natural caesarean section?

In Poland, natural cesarean section is still a novelty. However, in the United States, this procedure is being performed more and more often. What is a natural caesarean section? The most important thing about a natural cesarean section is the gradual, very slow removal of the baby from the uterus. After making the incision, the doctor only pulls out the baby’s head. This allows the newborn to go out on its own. The baby squeezes through the opening in the abdominal wall. He is helped by uterine contractions. To make them stronger, a new mother is sometimes given oxytocin. However, this is not necessary in all cases.