“I’m 45. I want a serious relationship, and I meet guys who need a mom”

“I’m 45. I want a serious relationship, and I meet guys who need a mom”

– I want a serious relationship, and I run into guys who need a mom to make dinner, collect and wash smelly socks. And then on joint walks, they look at twenty-year-olds anyway. I already have two children, I don’t need a third. I’m too old to play raising an adult man, writes Beata in a letter sent to the editorial office.

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I recently turned 45. Since my husband died 12 years ago, I live alone. Why? I can not say. I devoted myself entirely to raising my daughters. I didn’t want them to miss anything. For the first years, I worked 12 hours a day to earn money to keep the house and to keep the girls in line with their peers. I don’t know when those years have passed. Now one is 15, the other 13. They are already big, they understand more and more. They encourage me to go on dates. They say I can still get my life together. Only that suddenly it turned out that I was already a lady in her 40s.

Years fly by, and I’m more and more afraid of lonely old age. I never thought I’d have to worry about that. Always the life of the party, I shunned men. Now I’m really trying to get to know someone, but it’s hard. I was dating two guys. The beginning was nice, but when it came to more serious steps, it didn’t work out because they were not able to accept “other people’s children”. I’m done with online dating. There, gentlemen my age think that every woman is looking for a sponsor, and that’s all there is to it. I am financially independent, I don’t want other people’s money. I just want someone to hold me, talk to me, ask me how my day was. I wish someone was around to help me fix something around the house if it breaks. To have someone to go on vacation with or go on a date. I mean simple things.

But unfortunately, it turns out that I’m demanding too much … I want a serious relationship, and I run into guys who need a mom to make dinner, collect and wash smelly socks. And then on walks together, they look at twenty-year-olds anyway. I already have two children, I don’t need a third. I’m too old to play raising a grown man.

Beata.

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Source: Gazeta

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