Unfortunately, there is no algorithm for calculating the “right” amount of money. That is why many people do research among friends, others search the Internet. I decided to do a little reconnaissance and asked my editorial colleagues about it. The amounts that we put in envelopes as a gift for a young couple have been a problematic issue for years. If we give too little, “it will be a shame”. Too much – also not good. And as it turns out, the issue of shame for some people is so insurmountable that they would rather not go to the wedding at all than not put anything in the envelope. It is not uncommon to hear of situations where envelopes are given empty or filled with newspaper clippings. All this so that the family does not see that the person did not give the “right” gift.
Let everyone give as much as they can and think it’s appropriate – said Marcin. – It would be stupid for me too not to give something at least symbolically, as if I was invited. But let’s face it – not everyone has such situations as an envelope for a wedding written down in their budget, if someone’s budget is not tight and without it.
“This is not a ticketed event”
It is also worth noting that, by definition, the bride and groom invite guests to spend this important day with them. It is rather rare today to hear about situations where “young” hold their family and friends accountable. “Young people rather have a wedding because they want to, not to earn money. We didn’t get a gift from one person and we didn’t care. It’s important that it was already,” said Sandra, and Ula added: “Cash in envelopes is a serious matter according to recognition. If someone doesn’t give, because they don’t have, because they don’t want to, because whatever – that’s okay. It’s not a ticketed event.”
How much to put in an envelope for a wedding?
For some, the calculation is simple. “Cost of plates + PLN 50 per person”, “PLN 300-400 per head”. Others make the amount of money dependent on how well they know the bride and groom.
I think it all depends on the relationship with the bride and groom. I, for example, was shocked when I found out that people sign envelopes. A few years ago I attended the wedding of a cousin I hardly know. I put 200 zlotys in an envelope and didn’t sign it. Then I found out it wasn’t enough. But in my opinion, larger amounts are reserved for: children, grandchildren, godchildren, friends
Natalia said. In turn, Magda drew attention to the issue of the expenses of the inviters. Many guests take into account the costs the bride and groom incur for organizing the wedding and reception and try to compensate for them somehow:
I have 7 weddings this year, including one of my own. We plan to give friends PLN 800-1000. PLN 1,500 to the nearest sisters and brothers. We do not sign envelopes, because rather people know us and know that we would not like to deceive anyone. Maybe the amounts are high, but almost always weddings last two days: wedding + afterparty. We are aware of the costs, we know how much it costs. We always calculate that at least the “plate” will pay off.
Similar “indicators” are also used by Julia – “Now it’s probably PLN 800-1000 as standard. We often look at how much someone gave us for our wedding and add a hundred for each subsequent year. But it’s not billing guests – we just never wanted to to give someone less than we received from him/her.
There is no single answer to the question “what amount in an envelope is appropriate”. Each person has his own approach. The most popular of them seems to cover the cost of the “plate”, often a little more than that. However, this is not the rule. Fortunately, more and more often it is heard that the bride and groom care about the presence of guests, and what they find in the envelopes is simply a nice addition to the whole ceremony surrounded by the closest people.
Source: Gazeta
Bruce is a talented author and journalist with a passion for entertainment . He currently works as a writer at the 247 News Agency, where he has established himself as a respected voice in the industry.
