You tell yourself that your mother-in-law just wants to help. You tell yourself she’s trying to be nice. You tell yourself that all she cares about is that her grandkids are happy, but still, you can’t help yourself. There is an ingrained distance, maybe even negative feelings. Sounds familiar? As it turns out, as many as 50% of the respondents struggle with this problem
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How to get along with the mother-in-law? This question is asked by many women
Maybe you are one of those people who love their mother-in-law and couldn’t live without her, if so congratulations! However, it is possible that you are in the group of people who repeat the mantra in their heads during each visit: will go soon, will go soon, will go soon.
It is believed that the relationship with the mother-in-law is not the easiest from the very beginning. However, with time, when children appear, this relationship can be even more difficult. Nothing unusual! They say you don’t choose your family. That’s true. However, it is with the family that he grows up, lives, supports and creates the strongest ties. Later in life, we choose our new family ourselves. We decide what kind of people we want to surround ourselves with, what kind of partner we choose to live together. And although our partner may represent all the values we look for in a man, his mother may not. However, we must accept its existence, because we take it in a package with our chosen one.
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Over 50% of women surveyed describe their relationship with their mothers-in-law as “difficult” or even “hostile”
According to the American site Netmums one in four daughters-in-law ‘hates’ their mother-in-law and considers her ‘controlling’. This is due to the fact that the mother-in-law considers herself an authority on running a household and raising children.
In research conducted by University of Cambridge as many as two-thirds of daughters-in-law expressed the belief that their mother-in-law exhibited “irrational, jealous behavior towards sons”.
Dr. Terri Apter, who conducted the research, said half of the women described their relationship with their mothers-in-law as “difficult” or “hostile”, while more than half of the mothers-in-law said they felt “uncomfortable” with their daughters-in-law and “there is tension between them.” “.
How to address your mother-in-law? ‘It wouldn’t cross my throat to say mom’ (illustration photo) Sergii Sobolevskyi / Shutterstock
It turns out that mothers-in-law also do not like their sons-in-law very much
On a popular website granite there were a lot of voices from mothers-in-law expressing their dissatisfaction with their daughter-in-law’s behavior.
My daughter-in-law is completely possessive of my son. He doesn’t like it when he visits me for more than 45 minutes. She’s incredibly insecure and sees me as a threat, even though I’m not. At the same time, she wants them and my son to spend their days with her family.
Daughters-in-law did not owe:
My mother-in-law is a controlling, manipulative woman whom my husband adores and loves for some reason.
What is the way to resolve the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law?
Dr. Mikucki-Enyart claims that son is the key.
His priority must be his wife. He has to show her that it is.
After all, daughters-in-law must also show initiative and not treat mothers-in-law as competition.
You both love the same man, but in two completely different ways. Do not create competition among yourselves.
Source: Netmums.com, Gransnet.com
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