Many times in my life I have come across the statement that a woman “breaks up a marriage” because she meets a married man. After all, no one forces a man to cheat. Why are mistresses always to blame? It’s interesting how easy it is to blame a third party rather than your husband or yourself for a failure. Maybe it would be better to look at your relationship and think about what happened that made the man decide to cheat.
Blaming a mistress for cheating “because she seduced him” is a stereotypical approach to me. It is not mistresses who destroy marriages, but men who, despite being in a relationship, are looking for entertainment and pick up women because they want to prove to themselves that they are still attractive to others. It seems to me that by flirting, they raise their self-esteem and feel more masculine. Anyway, the same applies to women. We usually cheat when we stop feeling attractive, appreciated, adored in a marriage… And in this way we want to prove something to ourselves. Then it is not the lover who is guilty of the betrayal.
Routine, lack of communication, honest conversations, dating, self-care and affection are the main culprits of cheating in my opinion. Third parties are probably the least to blame here. It is not lovers who harm and destroy marriages, but us ourselves, because no one forces anyone to cheat.
Monica
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